"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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get out of my head.

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I met a girl. We are still in the process of getting together. We ran into each other at some parties. We have flirted with each other in real life and online. Her IL is high. I can tell because she plays with her hair and giggles. She didn't pull away when I used keno. Which is great.

However this is the first real oppurtunity for me to hook up since my divorce. I am having a difficult time getting her out of my head. I have only known her a short time, but I feel like I've been thinking about her constantly. I have tried to busy myself. I've been to the gym, I've worked on my hobbies, I've tried to read books. My mind wanders back to her. What can I do to distract myself from her?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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there's one thing - the most important - that is not on your list.

Other pvssy.

Make sure you have other options.

Don't put your eggs all in one basket.
 
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It make perfect sense. But then wouldn't I have more than one girl in my head distracting me?

I don't see how some DJs find the time to hit on tons of women. I work and I go to the gym and hang out with friends. I just about have enought time left over to sleep.
 
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Originally posted by soverign
It make perfect sense. But then wouldn't I have more than one girl in my head distracting me?
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Once you date other women, you'll stop getting that one stuck in your head. You'll realize that you don't need that one cuz you can have ANY one of the others you have on the go.
 
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my armchair psychoanalysis...

you were married, didn't work.

you meet this chic and subconsciously you're mind is analyzing whether maybe, with this one, it all work.

its human nature for hte mind to obsess over various things. i mean, if its not women its your bank account or something or other.

when the mind is confronted with things that aren't fully resolved or revealed it tries to analyze it to death to figure it out.

you may not even realize it but your obsessing with this woman probably has a LOT to do with your divorce.

the key to getting her out of your head is to no longer need anything from her. if you can wake up and be happy with whatever the day has to offer, and not desperately need somethign else, then nothing can control your mind.

think about it and i think youll find that you can't stop thinking about her because she somehow plays into all the repressed thoughts and feelings you have regarding your divorce and women.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Joker, I think what you said is right. My marriage ended very badly. It left me with a lot to think about as far as my problmes go. I know I have issues with women, probably steming from my mother and grandmother. I made a decision in my life to be happy, to find things i dislike and to change them. That was about when I found this site. I wasn't activly looking for anyone when I found this girl. I debated with myself if i should follow through with her. At first I wasn't, I was going to spend more time dealing with my problems. However she seems really into me, so I think i'll hook up with her and also work on my problems.

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ya, nothing wrong with that.

but when you find yourself obsessing about her, remind yourself that the reason you are doing so isnt her, and that in fact your analyzing your views on women in general nad your past relationships and how all that affects you.

at least then youll turn your mind towards constructive thinking and potentially discover and resolve things. versus projecting your analyzing onto this one girl.

:) good luck man,
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