hey guys, i have no problems getting numbers from random girls. but i feel like to setup a date i should build up more rapor with them. like right now i got this girls number, and im about to call her and try and setup a date. is this what all you guys do? the interaction was probably 5 minutes long, and most number-closing interactions are that fast for me. im just gonna start setting the date the time of but just wondering what your guys input is before i say **** it and give her a call in a few mins
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
get number and then date?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Igetit!
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How long have you had her number?
got it last night..i was kinda drunk she was sober...basically i just went up to her and said:
"hey excuse me, did it hurt?"
"what?"
"uhh when you fell from heaven of course"
*haha* "why do you think i fell from heaven?"
"how could i not think that? im just telling the truth right now"
*small talk obviously hitting on her*
"is this just a drunken thing or are you serious?"
"no, im being serious."
"ok then take my number down and give me a call"
"ok put it in my phone"
"hey excuse me, did it hurt?"
"what?"
"uhh when you fell from heaven of course"
*haha* "why do you think i fell from heaven?"
"how could i not think that? im just telling the truth right now"
*small talk obviously hitting on her*
"is this just a drunken thing or are you serious?"
"no, im being serious."
"ok then take my number down and give me a call"
"ok put it in my phone"
Igetit!
Moderator
Boy,I know that I'm going to take a lot of flack for this,but here goes anyway.
I wouldn't call her tonight. That's just me. I wouldn't call the next day. I would wait until tomorrow to give her a call. And for pete's sake man,stop drinking long enough to have a sober conversation with her when you do call.
A lot of women have a tendency to flake on guys when trying to set up a date. I don't think that there is a 100% full proof way to avoid this,but there are some things you can do to lessen her flake chances.
First,when you call her,try to stir up her emotions before you ask her out. You'll have a better chance of her saying yes to a date with you if she's experiencing some emotion when you ask her.
Another thing you should do is when you ask her out,instead of saying,"Do you wanna go out sometime?",say something that gives her the impression that you ALREADY had plans to do something,and since you were going to be doing it anyway,you're just inviting her to come along.
Say something like,"Hey,I'm going to the mall (or whatever) on Thursday,but I'm only going to be up there for an hour. Come up there and walk around with me,I mean,I could use a woman's opinion anyway".
This let's her know that you have a life,that you have things going on,and although you are busy,you might be willing to find time for her somewhere in your busy schedule. Do this,and it'll make you seem more interesting to her.
I wouldn't call her tonight. That's just me. I wouldn't call the next day. I would wait until tomorrow to give her a call. And for pete's sake man,stop drinking long enough to have a sober conversation with her when you do call.
A lot of women have a tendency to flake on guys when trying to set up a date. I don't think that there is a 100% full proof way to avoid this,but there are some things you can do to lessen her flake chances.
First,when you call her,try to stir up her emotions before you ask her out. You'll have a better chance of her saying yes to a date with you if she's experiencing some emotion when you ask her.
Another thing you should do is when you ask her out,instead of saying,"Do you wanna go out sometime?",say something that gives her the impression that you ALREADY had plans to do something,and since you were going to be doing it anyway,you're just inviting her to come along.
Say something like,"Hey,I'm going to the mall (or whatever) on Thursday,but I'm only going to be up there for an hour. Come up there and walk around with me,I mean,I could use a woman's opinion anyway".
This let's her know that you have a life,that you have things going on,and although you are busy,you might be willing to find time for her somewhere in your busy schedule. Do this,and it'll make you seem more interesting to her.
haha wow right when i was about to call her you post this. i was gonna use the same joke/pickup line (hmm, maybe another corny but cute one ill have to decide) right when she answered the phone to bring back the memory. then i was gonna say somethin like "so how about that dinner date you promised me?" and shell be like "i dont recall promising that" and i was just gonna spin it off like "oh well i just assumed you wanted to..so thursday?"
btw i was already finished drinking this was just out on the street after sunday night football games (GO CHARGERS@!!!!)
hmm..wait a few days.....hmmmmmm i jsut think i didnt leave a big enough lasting impression for her to wait a few days, thats why iw as just gonna say **** it and call her up now
btw i was already finished drinking this was just out on the street after sunday night football games (GO CHARGERS@!!!!)
hmm..wait a few days.....hmmmmmm i jsut think i didnt leave a big enough lasting impression for her to wait a few days, thats why iw as just gonna say **** it and call her up now
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Igetit!
Moderator
That's actually not a bad idea. However,I'd still stir up her emotions FIRST,then I'd try your dinner date plan. Also, I didn't say to wait a few days,I just wouldn't call her the very next day after getting her number.
I'd call her tomorrow,but hey,it's your call man.
I'd call her tomorrow,but hey,it's your call man.
Igetit!
Moderator
pua1989 said:
Hey,that's what we're here for. Peace man.
tony-montana
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do you use that heaven line all the time? i'm surprised it worked lol. i wouldn't use that man sounds corny.
im tellin you man, on the right girls (after a while you get a feel for who they are) cheesy pickup lines work awesome. i mean, what is so bad about it? lately my game has been blatant hitting on them. right off the bat if i use a corny pickup line like that, they know im trying to hit on them. not only that, if used with the right tone (playful, kinda joking, but serious) it is a compliment ("you are an angel") and they get flattered. i dont know, works great for me. number getting isnt the hard part, its executing for me. ill let you guys know what she says today when i call her back. (i would have called her lst night but her phone was going straight to voicemail so it was prolly off or outta batteries or somethin)
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
tony-montana
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alright haha, who's complaining then if it works right? 