"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Right, Some girl i was seeing has just ended it with me because i'm to "possessive" and says it has put her off me. We have been seeing each other for around 3 months. How can i get her to get those feelings back from when we first met? There must be a way round this or something i can do? Thanks
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You can't I don't think. Unless you change your ways and stop smothering her to death and being possessive. Even then its a case of does a leopard really change its spots?
 
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Will900 said:
Right, Some girl i was seeing has just ended it with me because i'm to "possessive" and says it has put her off me. We have been seeing each other for around 3 months. How can i get her to get those feelings back from when we first met? There must be a way round this or something i can do? Thanks
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There's not enough information here.



It's possible she's found another guy,but assuming she hasn't,answer a few questions...


For one,you said that she just recently ended things with you.


Well,how was her behavior prior to the breakup,like 2 or 3 weeks before the split? And what did she say when you two split? Did she say she needed "space",or just tell you she didn't want to be with you anymore?



And MORE IMPORTANTLY,how are things with you two RIGHT NOW?


Does she talk to you every now and then,or did she just end things and disappear?



If she still speaks with you,you might have a chance at reversing this,but if she just ended things and you haven't heard from her in a while,it's probably done with.




Try to answer ALL these questions,especially the one about her behavior leading up to the breakup.


Edit: At the moment,DO NOT CONTACT HER.



There's a reason WHY the split-up happened,and THAT HAS TO BE ADDRESSED FIRST.



If you get back in touch with her while that reason exist,you'll just make things worse.
 
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Will900 said:
should i contact her? Or wait till she decides to contact me?
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Initiate contact with her, if you are going too, but I think Igetit is spot on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Treat her with indifference.
Like don't let her see your needy/possessive emotions.

She'll start to see what she liked about you in the beginning of yalls relationship, without the needy side interfering.
 
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