"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Get fit with a FRIEND!

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For a few weeks now I have been running, and doing training with my friend, (he isn't a DJ), we both decided that we wanted to get more in shape (well we are not violently overweight or anything, we just wanted to get fitter)...

Training with a friend gives you somebody to talk to about getting fit, somebody to share goals and achievements with, someone to motivate you and push you... Somebody to go through the whole damn thing WITH you... So if you have any mates wanting to get in form, get talking to them and start training...

This is a better way to get in shape... not physically easier... but MENTALLY easier... and sometimes that can be the most important thing of all.

Best Regards,
SweetTooth
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not only are you able to push eachother, but you can hold eachother accountable for showing up. That way, if you skip a workout, then you're letting your friend down.

By the way...

Competition breeds the best results.
 

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having a guy with you at the gym is awesome, not only have you got a spotter but you can't leave 'til he does, so more sets etc ;)
 

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More sets aren't always better...


Thats why you lift together, you generally finish at the same time.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
More sets aren't always better...


Thats why you lift together, you generally finish at the same time.
ah yeah in general but when I go on my own I basically do 3 sets of bench, a set of skullcrushers and a set of shoulder presses and I'm off home >.>
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hm.

My "chest" day looks like

Bench: 5x5
Incline DBs: 3x8
Dips: 3x8

Then I scram.


In the end, get a friend.:) Creative huh?
 

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well if I do my full push day it'd be something like:

3 sets bench
3 sets incline bench
3 sets decline dumbells

3 sets shoulder press
3 sets forward raises

3 sets tricep press
3 sets skullcrushers


I fit that into about 40 minutes too :)
 

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howardalex said:
well if I do my full push day it'd be something like:

3 sets bench
3 sets incline bench
3 sets decline dumbells

3 sets shoulder press
3 sets forward raises

3 sets tricep press
3 sets skullcrushers


I fit that into about 40 minutes too :)
Don't believe in proper warmups, eh?
 

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tbh I don't bother with them, I know I should 'cos I do kickboxing and jiu jitsu and I can't be helping my flexibility by not stretching around weight workouts, I just never get round to it

however, I'm gonna start doing them with my new split, I figure it's about bloody time lol
 

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Warmups aren't just stretching.


It's building up to your work sets...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you'll get much more done if you take the time to warm up.
 

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Less likely to rip your muscle from the tendon as well lol
 
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