Get bored/ tired of relationships after a year

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Hey, I don't know if this is a problem for some of you. I hope I'm not the only one with this issue but ever since I've been dating in middle school I'm 24 now. I get bored of relationships after a year.

I've never been in a relationship for more than a year and it bothers me in a sense cause I've always been like this. I get extremely bored/ tired of the relationship and want out. Always.

There's always that unicorn men look for in a women but once they believe to have found that unicorn it's not always what it is.

It's scary for me to even go longer than a year in a relationship. I don't see the aspect of dating the same women for years and not be bored of her. It's never happened to me and I have a list of women I've dated. It seems like I have issues.

Any of you guys go thru this?

 

[devilkingx2]

every single guy goes through this.

I get bored in a few months usually though.

 

[backseatjuan]

You get bored because you choose same women over and over again. Take a break, do one night stands, figure out what you want.

 

[lizardking82]

You get bored because biologically, the "honeymoon" period that you experience with a woman in the beginning, usually 6 months to 1 year, is meant to be enough for you to have kids and to reproduce. It is a natural, evolutionary trait that we call love. However, in about as much time, you will lose interest and probably she will in you, too. However, and this is a big however, if the basics of the relationship are good, it does not mean the relationship is dead. You can make it interesting again. You will learn this as you go through relationships (or maybe you won't). They key thing to understand that you will get bored of basically every woman in your life, but pick wisely and look where you got the basic things going on well and stick to that relationship IF you want a relationship. A lot of men and women make this mistake (especially women), they get bored and think that going for something new AKA exciting will fix the whole thing. It does not fix it. You will go through the same period of honeymoon again, it will get boring again. In my opinion, mature "love" is sticking to someone you appreciate and who's basically an overall well built person. If you are lucky enough to find such a person, that is. A lot of people never find it. A lot of other people find him/her and then leave him/her because they think they can do better. It is a dangerous game to play so tread carefully

 

[PapiChulo]

I think it's your age. Wait till you get older and hit 30s, your priorities might change 180 degrees.

 

[resilient]

All relationships go through levels of progression. The more you hang out with a main plate, the faster the relationship will progress. If you find yourself getting bored easily after the one year mark... examine and ask yourself if you're addicted to the chase by conquering her heart, body, and mind.

I think many of us DJs do our best to stay emotionally unattached to various degrees, yet subconsciously, we still feel attached with the time investment we choose to put into a main plate. I believe what you're experiencing in boredom is normal at your age, 24. Especially if your DJ skills are sharp and fine tuned.

My mother has been married to my dad for several decades. They've weathered many ups and downs. They live like roommates now, but somehow they're still drawn to each other through all that time while raising my siblings and I to stay committed to my father. She told me something interesting last week when I was feeling a little uneasy/anxious about where I stood with my main plate, "joy in the journey."

Enjoy the ride man, and don't care about getting too bored too soon. Have joy in the journey.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

You just haven't met one who really pushes your buttons yet. Come back in ten years and see what you think then.