Genuine Interest???

[MR_PERFECT]

I'm seeing a girl that shows extemely high interest in every way, except for one: she has no interest in reading my screenplay. When I told her about it, she asked me a little about it, and that was that. My question is if a woman were sincerely interested in you for all the right reasons, wouldn't she want to know everything about you? It would be like me knowing she's a painter, yet, I don't want to look at any of her paintings.

I'm not going to hold this against her, I'm having fun. But without her taking a genuine interest, we're just on borrowed time. Time will make her feel like we've got something real, but you and me know we've got nothing but time.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

What are the signs of extremely high interest she's showing?

Why do you think she has no interest in reading your screen play? What did she tell you?

Details please.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

High levels of interest: she always calls; she always sends text messages; she always wants to get together; the sex is constant; I have final say about whatever we're going to do; she was going to not go on a trip with friends to spend time with me, which I refused. My problem is that she likes me a lot, but like most people, I'm not sure she knows what true compatibility is like.

I've mentioned the screenplay more than once. The first time, she asked the general "what is it about." The second time it was mentioned, she didn't say one word about it. Now, if someone is trying to get to know me, this would be the most telling thing about me.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Perhaps she's even more aware that you two are not too compatible, but she still likes you so much that she wants to continue spending time with you, and enjoy her time, as long as it lasts. She might realize that this might not last forever, but willing to go along for the ride. She might also think that her high interest and attraction for you will be enough to carry you through.

You also might be dealing with somebody who just "lives for the moment". Does she plan her future? Is she done with school? Is she in a carreer she wants to be in for a long time?

This is a good test to find out a lot about her, with a short question. Ask her, "What are your passions in life?" or "What are you passionate about?". There is a good chance she doesn't even know, since she hasn't been asked that before.

You seem to have your passions and things that you pursue other than relationships. She might not be mature enough for where you are at?

 

[MR_PERFECT]

This is a good test to find out a lot about her, with a short question. Ask her, "What are your passions in life?" or "What are you passionate about?". There is a good chance she doesn't even know, since she hasn't been asked that before.

You seem to have your passions and things that you pursue other than relationships. She might not be mature enough for where you are at?

I never thought of that before. I assumed if she was passionate about something, it would have come out. I will ask this question when I'm bored with the sex, I don't want to ruin a good thing just yet.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I never thought of that before. I assumed if she was passionate about something, it would have come out. I will ask this question when I'm bored with the sex, I don't want to ruin a good thing just yet.

Haha, sounds like you already know the answer to that. You can still ask it, and don't make a big deal about it, don't come across as judgemental, and you should be ok.