"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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general club/dance question

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BongDuy

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last night i went to a club. I had no problem opening up with a girl, i would just generally come out and say
"Have we met before?"
"I just thought you were really cute so i had to come over and say hi"
"hey whats your name?"

and i would just dance with them. i got rejected and denied, but that's not what my main concern is.

in a club area, where lights are flashing everywhere, and music is blasting, and girls are dancing in circles, how do you really isolate them or build rapport? I feel like whenever a girl and I get close, her friend comes down and steals her away.

It seems like dancing and trying to build rapport with a girl is impossible in these scenario, because whenever i try to talk, the girl ends up saying " what?!" and expects me to repeat myself half a dozen times. thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheBucketOfTruth

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This is why clubs are all about male posturing and AMOG stuff. It's too loud to have anything resembling a conversation, so you either have to use your caveman game or try to get her to step out for a chat. This is one of the few benefits of being a cigarette smoker (I am not). You can say something to her like "hey want to go outside for a smoke?" and then be able to actually interact with her. This only works if you're a smoker, though.

If you're good at dancing then use that to your advantage and then go grab a drink at the bar and find a quiet spot if there is one. Clubs just want to make money so many have the music blasting so that people will drink away the awkwardness of not being able to carry on conversations with anyone.
 
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