Gender Struggle Escalation

[synergy1]

You have too many guys here.... no, let me rephrase that. The mistake, that I see with the site now, is that there are basically too many posts telling guys they aren't the problem, that they are fine, when in reality they aren't. You aren't an attractive person (not just looks). What exactly do you bring to the table that would make a woman see you as a viable candidate? Why are you looking for a woman, a very attractive woman to date you and bring nothing to the table whatsoever?

Quite a few arguments here favor a mens perspective, and sometimes not justifiably so. On one hand, we can scorn a women for dating multiple guys, but can just as easily justify banging a married chick. I see a lot wrong with adapting this mindset; faulting ONLY women for the vicissitudes of dating woes is a horribly flawed perspective. The truth is that men must contribute towards the well being of their dating lives. Said another way, we onus must be on us to provide a quality product just as much as it aught to for a women.

I agree with the question of this post: everyone should ask themselves what they can bring to the table in a good relationship. You had made a post not so long about about 10 qualities one believes they have. This was a worthwhile exercise for people to participate in.

And I agree that war between the sexes is not the answer.

agreed. Sometimes it sure feels like it, but a 'war' is not the right approach. In this case, i'd opt to set a good example rather than stoop to other peoples levels and continue to blame the world for all the injustices.

 

[Solomon]

This post way far ahead of it's time amazing the dialouge our OG's had they saw this coming long ago!

 

[Divorced w 3]

This post way far ahead of it's time amazing the dialouge our OG's had they saw this coming long ago!

You're right about that...that's the best post i have read in a long time

 

[Bokanovsky]

This post way far ahead of it's time amazing the dialouge our OG's had they saw this coming long ago!

The themes that we discuss on SS are not new. Most of the social ills that plague society today were already prevalent, though to a lesser extent, when I was growing up in the 90's.

In fact, I think the 90's were a major inflection point, especially in the West. It was the end of the post-WWII "golden age" and the beginning of a weirder, more psychotic period in human history.

 

[BaronOfHair]

The themes that we discuss on SS are not new. Most of the social ills that plague society today were already prevalent, though to a lesser extent, when I was growing up in the 90's

There was a time in the not.remotely distant past https://www.reddit.com/r/menwritingwomen/comments/rfdd9t where a mindset that essentially went:

"We can curb prejudice and bias towards men dramatically, via courage and guile. That we'll never rid society of misandry entirely doesn't absolve us from doing everything in our power to REDUCE it"

Was the one most fellas abided by... It's no coincidence that, when we did so, what would eventually be dubbed Wokeness didn't exert the stranglehold on our culture that it has for the last decade or so

For reasons I won't even pretend to understand, somewhere around '15, men in America adopted the same self-defeating mindset("The System screwed us over, therefore we SHOULD NOT have to do the bare minimum to help ourselves")that so many women, non-whites, and gays have held since The late 1960s. And now, we're doing just as sh-t-illy as so many of them are!!!

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Putting the blame on video games and Incels being Incels. I guess some things never change.