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I am planning to go to a football game tomorrow and noticed that all of their public washrooms are gender neutral. I did some research into this and discovered this is actually a trend that started some time ago. Has anyone tried those types of washrooms? I can't wrap my head around seeing a woman being inside the same public washroom as men without feeling pervy about being in such a set-up, lol! It might feel like I'm going into a woman's washroom.

Probably will make sure I don't need to use the washroom during the game, lol! How was your experience like being in such a washroom? Did it make you look at women the same way? Like they are no longer in a mental pedistle because they stink too (if not worst)?
 

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The only part that’s coed is the mirror and sinks, the stalls are in essence little rooms with doors. Yea I’ve banged chicks in them and gotten blowj0bs. But I was already with the woman, I didn’t approach in the restroom.

It’s aseptic, but I guess as an incel the wind blows and you get aroused. Don’t be weird.
 

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I am planning to go to a football game tomorrow and noticed that all of their public washrooms are gender neutral. I did some research into this and discovered this is actually a trend that started some time ago. Has anyone tried those types of washrooms? I can't wrap my head around seeing a woman being inside the same public washroom as men without feeling pervy about being in such a set-up, lol! It might feel like I'm going into a woman's washroom.

Probably will make sure I don't need to use the washroom during the game, lol! How was your experience like being in such a washroom? Did it make you look at women the same way? Like they are no longer in a mental pedistle because they stink too (if not worst)?
Sounds like a good time, especially with drunk girls. I've seen a few things in my time.
 

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A nightclub I used to go to was like that. The women would go to the left and men to the right. Women would occasionally touch up on their mirror before leaving the restroom. Everyone would do the same line.

There were funny conversations to be had before going pee.
 

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Thanks for your input. The arena did have gender segregated washrooms (ie men's only washrooms but a row of urinals, etc...) and was not 100% unisex/gender neutral like I expected.


It said it had gender neutral washrooms in all floors (ie aka family washrooms), but never said it EXCLUSIVELY only had gender neutral washrooms. It looks like a case where the mind is playing tricks. I get nervous, look at youtube videos of High Schools where they renovated and changed their whole washroom scheme to gender neutral.
 

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The only part that’s coed is the mirror and sinks, the stalls are in essence little rooms with doors. Yea I’ve banged chicks in them and gotten blowj0bs. But I was already with the woman, I didn’t approach in the restroom.

It’s aseptic, but I guess as an incel the wind blows and you get aroused. Don’t be weird.
Don't worry, once you age like I do, like approaching the 50s, then the lower libido and testosterone makes it more difficult to get aroused.
 

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Thanks for your input. The arena did have gender segregated washrooms (ie men's only washrooms but a row of urinals, etc...) and was not 100% unisex/gender neutral like I expected.


It said it had gender neutral washrooms in all floors (ie aka family washrooms), but never said it EXCLUSIVELY only had gender neutral washrooms. It looks like a case where the mind is playing tricks. I get nervous, look at youtube videos of High Schools where they renovated and changed their whole washroom scheme to gender neutral.
Nice. I am glad you were able to go out and see a TFC win lol :)
 

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Nice. I am glad you were able to go out and see a TFC win lol :)
Yes, they won 2 to 1. Was in an area that most people were standing up during the duration of the game. Was surprized that I was into it myself and found myself cheering when home team made a goal or blocked one from the opposing team and it looked tight. Was not totally out of it like I thought I was going to be. There was also allot of charged crowd energy there. In contrast, the baseball game I attended on July 20th at Rogers center was not as intense but did have it's moments. They went 6 minutes overtime. Guzzled down a bag of popcorn and a beer near the end (ie for the experience of being in this place).
 

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Visited a gender neutral washroom at an indoor farmer's market on the Saturday before this past Saturday. Was an interesting experience. Was very, very shy to enter the washroom when I saw there was another women inside. It's like you still worry if someone might come with a false accusation or you are going into some forbidden social territory. I had to wait for the washroom to clear before I felt comfortable going in. The toilets had these gigantic walls in between and the whole experience had an interesting sci-fi vibe to it for a washroom (ie at least the stalls). When going on the sink, I saw a lady wash her hand on the other end, and a guy nearer to me. There is a natural aversion to being close to women in those spaces as it has a creepy/pervy vibe on one hand (ie probably as I don't have chad-tier looks so I guess that is to be expected, but someone else who is chad-tier might feel like a fun experience I guess). Overall, the nerves went through the wringer since I'm not used to being in a space like that and it felt like another dimension to the social norms that I've known and been accustomed to all my life.
 

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There was another guy in the washroom who didn't go near the other lady, but stayed closer to me. He looked normal with me and was not fat or ugly. I'm mixed-race so some women aren't going to dig me because I'm half-Black (or looking middle-eastern or something like that), I get that, but not everyone. The other lady I saw there was like Asian/Filipina, and they are not the type that like Blacks, some do, but many stick to their own or like whites.

There was no other demographics that I saw in there at the time.

It would appear, based on my brief experience in such a washroom, people of the same gender tend to stay with each other. Otherwise gals would be paired with guys in there. I think people tend to still stick with their own genders on a social level. But then again I visited once, and there was only me another guy and an asian looking gal in the hand-washing area.
 

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There was another guy in the washroom who didn't go near the other lady, but stayed closer to me. He looked normal with me and was not fat or ugly. I'm mixed-race so some women aren't going to dig me because I'm half-Black (or looking middle-eastern or something like that), I get that, but not everyone. The other lady I saw there was like Asian/Filipina, and they are not the type that like Blacks, some do, but many stick to their own or like whites.

There was no other demographics that I saw in there at the time.

It would appear, based on my brief experience in such a washroom, people of the same gender tend to stay with each other. Otherwise gals would be paired with guys in there. I think people tend to still stick with their own genders on a social level. But then again I visited once, and there was only me another guy and an asian looking gal in the hand-washing area.
All of this matters way too much to you. Just take a whiz and move on.
 

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All of this matters way too much to you. Just take a whiz and move on.
I was intending to be facetious with the previous post. That was not a serious reply. Wordy, but not serious at the core. People know me on here to have weight issues. Whether my perception is like a low to mid tier normie, or if I'm genuinely an ugly guy is another story. However, being the first time using this type of washroom I'm entitled to feel awkward about the whole set-up.
 

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Yes every time I've used a washroom on an airplane, or in a small bar or cafe that has one restroom, for starters. Or simply at someone's house.

The only part that’s coed is the mirror and sinks, the stalls are in essence little rooms with doors.
Hoping to see more of that, and fewer "stalls" where you can see people's feet and there's a gap where the door closes.
 

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Gender neutral bathrooms haven't become much of a thing in my area. It's difficult to imagine a co-ed bathroom becoming a hotspot for approaching.
 

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Visited a gender neutral washroom at an indoor farmer's market on the Saturday before this past Saturday. Was an interesting experience. Was very, very shy to enter the washroom when I saw there was another women inside. It's like you still worry if someone might come with a false accusation or you are going into some forbidden social territory.
Sounds goofy to me. I agree with you, I'm actually surprised there haven't been accusations related to this yet, that I've heard of. They don't have these where I live yet. There are bathrooms used by both sexes in places, of course. But those are for one person at a time and have a lock on the door.
 

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Gender neutral bathrooms haven't become much of a thing in my area. It's difficult to imagine a co-ed bathroom becoming a hotspot for approaching.
For chad-tiers I guess anything is possible. We are both sub-8s/sub-9s so we don't know their world of women throwing themselves on them everywhere in public.
 

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can't wrap my head around seeing a woman being inside the same public washroom as men
You won't man. Women aren't going into man's bathroom. You'll see trannies there instead.
 

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