"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Gazing with no smile

phoenix76

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Hi,

Some women lock eyes and may keep the eye contact for five seconds, even longer without ever breaking it before they go out of field of vision. But there's no smile despite it should be obvious to both that we're staring each other. No preening, no fidgeting, nothing visible atleast.

Example 1. Yesterday a younger woman on a park bench. I saw she was looking at me from distance as I walk by. Closer I locked into her eyes. She didn't smile, she didn't drop her yaw either. Eyes locked for atleast five seconds until I had to turn my head quite a lot to see her. I gave her a smile and turned away.

Example 2. Gym a couple days ago. Two 20+ gym chicks working out next to me. I saw them checking me out, and briefly I did too. Later they walked towards me in a corridor. I try to be polite at gym and I look slightly sideways past them but I see they look at me. I wouldn't just stare a wall all the way so as we're closing I look forward. BOTH have shameless, direct eye contact and they wouldn't break. But no smile, just intense gaze. Pretty bold at the gym. I was a little baffled given my age but for some reason younger women (girls) often give me long looks. Maybe I should start capitalizing on it ;)

What's up with staring so long with no visible emotion? I know what it means if someone repeteadly stares from distance and breaks away when eye contact happens - shy interest/evaluation/you look nice. But it's different boldly eye to eye, it feels fairly cold, aggressive even creepy by nature actually. Is it?

How should I respond to see what the true intention is? A smile, wink what? What response I should look for? Or should I wait the her to give herself away or is gazing actually a way for her to say 'see me'. Or is it too little to draw any meaningful conclusions.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LoveAfter2009

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My "love/pedestal girl" did the same. Countless dozens times we lock eyes with each other for years, but neither of us ever smiled.

Last year I half smiled got a half smile back.

Yesterday, I fully smiled, got a full smile back, and talked to her. We got along pretty good.

So I guess they are just nervous/afraid and not sure if they should smile or not.
 

foreverAFC

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phoenix76 said:
Hi,

Some women lock eyes and may keep the eye contact for five seconds, even longer without ever breaking it before they go out of field of vision. But there's no smile despite it should be obvious to both that we're staring each other. No preening, no fidgeting, nothing visible atleast.

Example 1. Yesterday a younger woman on a park bench. I saw she was looking at me from distance as I walk by. Closer I locked into her eyes. She didn't smile, she didn't drop her yaw either. Eyes locked for atleast five seconds until I had to turn my head quite a lot to see her. I gave her a smile and turned away.

Example 2. Gym a couple days ago. Two 20+ gym chicks working out next to me. I saw them checking me out, and briefly I did too. Later they walked towards me in a corridor. I try to be polite at gym and I look slightly sideways past them but I see they look at me. I wouldn't just stare a wall all the way so as we're closing I look forward. BOTH have shameless, direct eye contact and they wouldn't break. But no smile, just intense gaze. Pretty bold at the gym. I was a little baffled given my age but for some reason younger women (girls) often give me long looks. Maybe I should start capitalizing on it ;)

What's up with staring so long with no visible emotion? I know what it means if someone repeteadly stares from distance and breaks away when eye contact happens - shy interest/evaluation/you look nice. But it's different boldly eye to eye, it feels fairly cold, aggressive even creepy by nature actually. Is it?

How should I respond to see what the true intention is? A smile, wink what? What response I should look for? Or should I wait the her to give herself away or is gazing actually a way for her to say 'see me'. Or is it too little to draw any meaningful conclusions.
she is waiting for you to smile or acknowledge her. if you dont, she will think you are not interested or dont find her attractive. dont wait for them to smile or say high first.
 

El Payaso

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I've run into this quite a few times lately as well. In fact, I think a professor of mine had a crush on me. Weird, I know. She would just stare at me all the time and always wanted to talk to me for some reason.

Try smiling at them and see what you get back. If they smile, it might be a small invitation.
 
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