"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gay Clubs--Good Spots for Meeting Women?

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Conventional wisdom suggests that women are less guarded in gay clubs as opposed to straight clubs. What do you guys think? Anyone have any personal experience/stories?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you have gay friends, then yeah, you can scoop up some girls in their social circle.


If you're going to gay clubs/parties for the specific purpose of finding women, there's a good chance that you're just a closet homosexual.
 
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^^

That last comment is just stupid.

I used to hit up this gay club called the Pleasuredome in Melbourne back in the late 90s. Me and my mates were pretty much the only straight guys other than your token steroidhead/gangsters and the women were far nicer and open to being approached. The joint was full of strippers too, just as many hot birds as gays. We used to clean up! Not sure how it works now but I'd give it a go for sure.
 

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Spinning Spinning said:
^^

That last comment is just stupid.

I used to hit up this gay club called the Pleasuredome in Melbourne back in the late 90s. Me and my mates were pretty much the only straight guys other than your token steroidhead/gangsters and the women were far nicer and open to being approached. The joint was full of strippers too, just as many hot birds as gays. We used to clean up! Not sure how it works now but I'd give it a go for sure.


Yeah. And I bet these "birds" you picked up were really into anal, weren't they?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What is the purpose of your existence in this forum? I don't know what your issue is but all you seem to do is be rude to posters. Try a little extra sugar in your coffee you may not be so bitter.

Say what you want, knock yourself out, I wont be wasting another post on you. ;)
 

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jglide123 said:
Conventional wisdom suggests that women are less guarded in gay clubs as opposed to straight clubs. What do you guys think?
My wisdom suggests that women hanging out in a gay club are there because they don't want men to be trying to pick them up that night.
 
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Or.....they have a lot of gay friends.....or......they don't like a particular type of guy hitting on them. But your comments do have merit I agree.
 

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Spinning Spinning said:
Or.....they have a lot of gay friends.....or......they don't like a particular type of guy hitting on them. But your comments do have merit I agree.
Good points. I'm thinking about going out to one tonight just to change it up a bit.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah, I've picked up a couple of girls at gay clubs. As you said, people are more about having fun and there's less of a predatory vibe.
 

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Good place to pick up a tranny!
 

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A long time ago, my high school ex turned lesbo for a while during college. I used to come home from my college and hang out with her and her girlfriend at the local gay bar. Gay bars exist because gay people like to drink, a lot. It's probably something to do with escapism from a world that does not treat them so well, but whatever it is, they party. If you happen to have any gay friends, they are actually fun people to be around. And no one will rape you in the bathroom, don't worry. Being straight around gay people lets you experience what it is like to be the one with the odd sexual choices.

There will always be a fag hag or two at the bar that are easy prey. I have had them practically rape me, but none of them were ever very attractive. And don't go unless you go with gay friends who take you. Mine were lesbos, but even if it's gay guys, they will tell everyone you're straight and you will have no worries. Gay people are actually very respectful of sexual orientation, once again because of how they've been treated.
 

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Using gay clubs to get women is not a good idea. Chicks go to gay clubs in the first place to get away from the guys who approach them in the other clubs and bars. They usually go in groups of chicks, with a particular b*tch vibe. I find this a bit unattractive personally.

Plus you're surrounded by a bunch of gay guys who want to hit on you. Not really the most conducive place to picking up chicks.

Point is, develop your game and don't look for some sly route to picking up chicks like going to a gay club in hopes of cornering some untapped market. Believe me, these chicks have usually been tapped plenty who go there, and often are just seeking the gay clubs in a time when they can't deal with the straight men (ie they just got dumped, they're going through a feminist belief change, they're quasi lesbian, etc).

Having said that, I HAVE picked up chicks from gay clubs. They were all NOT very hot, one was crazy, and on the whole just weren't worth it. But if you want to give it a shot, go ahead. I just think you're going to realize some of the things I've said above are true.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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