"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So I guess this is me taking the second step, putting it all into action and forcing myself to start getting better through fear of embarrassment and the like. This is mostly for my records but I love criticism so feel free to chip in with advice

My goals for the next few weeks are pretty simple
1. Get school under control (bombing all my classes because of my bout with depression from losing "the love of my life" which I'm now aware was BS
2. Get in shape
3. Get in the DJ mindset
4. Learn my music stuff (Piano, Guitar, Harmonica...Vocals?)

How To?
1. Just do my homework, tests are easy
2. Don't eat like a fat man, get a Y membership since I can for like 25 bucks, Use said Y pass
3. Religiously reading both HS and regular DJ Bibles....pun intended...and doing the 8 week DJ boot camp
4. Spend an hour each night rotating throughout each, official guitar lesson Wednesdays


So Boom! It's out there now, thanks for the welcome on my crybaby thread and let's start making each other better, sexier, wittier people.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yesterday went from practicing eye contact and confidence to just hangin' with some buddies of mine, ran into them at the mall and women aren't everything...or anything really, just a pastime now. (albeit one I'm terrible at) So that was my Wednesday, work and school until next Monday.
 

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Watch out, the bootcamp may suddenly kick your ass a couple weeks into it. It'll start demanding effort and time from your part.

Elaborate on your physical form? A couple of us here believe we are way too qualified in nutrition science and sport science.
 

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5' 11" well built but a little chub(the kind you can only tell when the shirts off), 170 lbs. Not entirely sure what other information you'd want. Been eating 1 or 2 meals a day since I became single, not a dieting thing, just I don't eat when I'm sad kind of thing. Thoughts?
 

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Thursday draws to a close, new chick LJBFed me. She got a new boyfriend too :p

Whatever, made progress on my piano skills, worked on eye contact at work (consultant at best buy) felt good and made some new friends. going bowling with some coworkers Sunday.

Cons: Ate like a pig, Let my ex stay on my mind, Didn't approach anybody I didn't have to from work

Goals for Friday: start getting caught up in school, Not die at work, Play guitar when I get home

Much love to anyone who reads this...or those who don't. No reason to hate anybody.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Worked all weekend, no free-time. I hate 12 hour shifts. Managed to still get my week one challenges in at work, plenty of cute chicks looking for a computer for college.

Got a rock climbing date with this catholic school girl, that should be fun. Making progress, little by little.

Still not entirely sure if there's some format for this I should be following or not, but I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing until somebody corrects me.
 

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Finally got my internet back

Lost my internet, without my daily dose of DJ I fell back into oneitis again. But a weird version of it, I've been focusing on eating right and jogging and other health related crap, got into and out of drugs, but no pursuit of women because I was just disinterested.

My computer once again has internet connection and I missed you guys, so I'm back.

Goals?

None yet, open to suggestions.
 
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