"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ganji'ed a woman, now it's getting interesting

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EternalStudent

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Hey, DJ's.

Met a girl that I had a connection with. We went out a few times and things were looking pretty good -- until I found out she has a boyfriend. Now I don't know if it's on the decline, if she's bored, etc.

Anyway, I Ganji'ed this girl completely -- no email, no phone calls, NOTHING.

A couple months pass. We have some mutual friends. Now she has been asking around if I am pissed off or angry with her. I am not. If anything was going to be able to happen between us, I need to be able to trust her. If things continued on that path, I know I would not be able to do that.

She asked one of my friends about me last week. He, being the good friend he is, told her I was busy with my job and travelling. He advised I talk to her.

I'm just wondering what your thoughts are and how you would handle this situation? I certainly would like to see where things stand with her, but I'm not sure if it would seem odd if I tried calling her now.

Let's hear your thoughts!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bvbidd

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I think it means just cutting contact with a girl.
 
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ducaro

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i thought you meant 'Ganja' the 'entertainment shrub' that is smoked in south asia... cuz thats why the topic sounded interesting to me.. lol.. 'ganji'ed a woman, now its getting interesting'...:crackup:
 
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I thought it meant you fvcked her and then broke contact. Then I thought of Mahatma Gandhi and I know he would never do anything like that......
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If things were going well like you said, why would you Ganji her because she had a BF? I believe Ganji was a last ditched effort to get a girl interested in you that LJBF'ed you.
 
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alot of people haven't been here that long. Gangi games are an ole time term.


The thing aobut Ganji games are.. if you didn't fvck her THEN.. they really didn't work
 
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I spent some more time thinking about this -- hey, if her goal was to get her on my mind after a few months, it worked.

I realized that the initial reason I cut contact was because she had a boyfriend I didn't know about and then informed me later. I can't be the part-time lover -- it's not what I want.


Guess I made up my own mind and started second guessing myself. Thanks for chiming in though.
 
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