Gaming a girl's friend

[AttackFormation]

I just started swiping some on tinder. There's this girl I'd like to hit on who works at a big store I frequent that I'm pretty sure is open to me, but the store has such a large number of employees that you don't see anyone regularly. I was going to talk to her the last time I saw her, but she smiled and looked down/away when she (I assume) saw me, a moment before I (tried to) make eye contact with her so I could smile back and initiate. I don't know if she's on tinder, but I know her friend is who apparently works there too, although I can't recall ever seeing her.

What'd you do when you match with her friend? A "direct" approach of asking about her friend in the two pictures and/or saying you matched her because you wanna talk to her buddy (I think that's a high risk of being c0ckblocked out of jealousy or something, but what do I know)? A "group" approach inviting them all to come hang out at the beach (with or without remarking that her friend looks like she works there too and bla bla) Or a sneaky approach ( ), basically leading her along so you can eventually meet her friends.

 

[devilkingx2]

going at a girl indirectly like that is middle/high school stuff, might as well ask her friend to pass her a note lol. (and also 110% likely to backfire if either of them catches wind of what you're doing)

your only hope is that talking to her friend somehow leads to you getting to know her too, naturally if her friend catches any legitimate feelings for you your chances with her are ruined, but if she doesn't like you much you wouldn't meet her friends so... catch-22

 

[AttackFormation]

going at a girl indirectly like that is middle/high school stuff, might as well ask her friend to pass her a note lol. (and also 110% likely to backfire if either of them catches wind of what you're doing)

your only hope is that talking to her friend somehow leads to you getting to know her too, naturally if her friend catches any legitimate feelings for you your chances with her are ruined, but if she doesn't like you much you wouldn't meet her friends so... catch-22

Yea haha my gut is sending warning signals all over it, it seems like either a bad or total fail option, good to get it confirmed.

Indeed, and the thing is, to have a decent chance at appearing in her tinder feed in the first place I'd have to use a superlike which at least in theory you don't throw around like a normal like. That would probably make it seem weird to then do a 180 in front of her face and go for her friend if we are introduced especially considering, or perhaps because, the girl I actually want to see would already vaguely recognize me when we meet.

 

[devilkingx2]

Yea haha my gut is sending warning signals all over it, it seems like either a bad or total fail option, good to get it confirmed.

Indeed, and the thing is, to have a decent chance at appearing in her tinder feed in the first place I'd have to use a superlike which at least in theory you don't throw around like a normal like. That would probably make it seem weird to then do a 180 in front of her face and go for her friend if we are introduced especially considering, or perhaps because, the girl I actually want to see would already vaguely recognize me when we meet.

you can flirt with them both so long as you haven't committed to one/have a thing with one by the time you meet the other

 

[AttackFormation]

you can flirt with them both so long as you haven't committed to one/have a thing with one by the time you meet the other

Speaking of flirting... that reaction I mentioned in my OP felt pretty surreal when it happened. I expected her to look back at me and smile if I looked at her, which is what she did when I passed her on her way to work a couple weeks ago. Then she must have seen me again one time, but we didn't interact. But this time after I only saw her peripherally, she smiles and looks away the very moment before I (tried to) make eye contact with her. That seems like something you'd do if you're shy. Maybe we're both crazy thinking about each other

 

[devilkingx2]

Speaking of flirting... that reaction I mentioned in my OP felt pretty surreal when it happened. I expected her to look back at me and smile if I looked at her, which is what she did when I passed her on her way to work a couple weeks ago. Then she must have seen me again one time, but we didn't interact. But this time after I only saw her peripherally, she smiles and looks away the very moment before I (tried to) make eye contact with her. That seems like something you'd do if you're shy. Maybe we're both crazy thinking about each other

yeah that sounds like a pretty good reaction you should approach

 

[lizardking82]

Gaming your girl's friend: don't. Abort mission, soldier. It never ends well. Especially so if you have had sth with the girl.