"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gaming a girl that a popular guy is gaming

Brighty

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Alright, let me just say that I use the term popular loosely. I mean the guy who hangs out with the jocks. I'm a pretty popular kid, but I don't hang out with the jock social circle save for one or two people, otherwise I probably have more quality friends than he does.

Anyway, there's this girl that I've been flirting with and then withdrawing for the past week and she's going ga-ga over it. Everything will work out great, if I don't end up c-blocking myself. Because I've got it hammered into my head that the jock social circle has got first pick of the hot girls (I mean, they have had it for the past three years, why shouldn't they? Wrong.) and now that I've found out that they're talking (well, the girl still likes me, so her friend says) then I feel as though I'm going to be naturally nervous or insecure when I'm talking to her now, knowing that I'm going to have to compete with a "popular" kid. Or, I could be completely blowing this out of proportion, which I probably am. But I can't let myself psyche myself out, so I'm wondering what your guys' opinions are on it.

How important is popularity to a girl? Me and this guy are both tall, good looking, and we're both confident. The only advantage he has over me is that he was friends with her first and that he hangs out with the popular kids (which for some reason I feel makes him better than me), but I'm actually doing something with my life (I placed first place in Colorado in a film competition and I'm going to pursue that, has already gotten me some tail) and he's an idiot as most jocks are. Girls are in abundance for both of us. It all comes down to me holding true to my principals back two years ago where I stood up for a kid getting picked on by the jocks and got into a fight with one of the jocks and kicked the **** out of him because they're a bunch of tools. That's basically the reason why I'm not in with that crowd, although at times I wonder if I should've taken the plunge for more ass.

I need to not psyche myself out guys, if you guys have any words of encouragement or war stories or any advice on the matter, let that **** rip, I could definitely use it. My main concern is just not letting my mind blow it out of proportion. But, it's really oh well, if I botch this up somehow, I've got a nice lineup of other girls I'm looking at right now anyway. But, right now, I want her, and I'm going to get her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Luminescence

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Popularity is very important for girls; or a better term would be ''social status''. Reputation is everything for them and they will usually latch on to anyone that gives them a step up within their social circle.

It will be interesting to see how things turn out.
 

Aragon034

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you're in your last year of highschool? or first year of college?

the whole idea that because he's got the social circle of jocks around him making him better than you is BS. You've got to stop thinking about him as competition, and start thinking about what YOU want.

I agree with Luminescence that to girls popularity means alot, but the issue is, do you really want a girl who'll choose popularity instead of a credible, superior man?

Just run your game, show higher value, and don't let that 'jock' faze you.
 

L777

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Its really sad that you think someone is better than you based on who you hang out with....although from your description of yourself you sound pretty jock-ish as well.

If girls really were "in abundance" for you I doubt you'd be obsessing over this one girl.

How about....become actually interesting and go after cool girls rather than frat-boy groupies? I know thats an alien concept for American males but it couldn't hurt to try.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Sure, Social Proof can give u an edge but a true player can beat a guy with social status in the end. A true player doesn't care if a guy knows more people. His subcommunication shows that he's better than all that. Girls will notice this. If social proof was all thats needed, then ALL guys who got social proof would get laid which isn't the case.
 
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