Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gaming a girl that a popular guy is gaming

Brighty

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Alright, let me just say that I use the term popular loosely. I mean the guy who hangs out with the jocks. I'm a pretty popular kid, but I don't hang out with the jock social circle save for one or two people, otherwise I probably have more quality friends than he does.

Anyway, there's this girl that I've been flirting with and then withdrawing for the past week and she's going ga-ga over it. Everything will work out great, if I don't end up c-blocking myself. Because I've got it hammered into my head that the jock social circle has got first pick of the hot girls (I mean, they have had it for the past three years, why shouldn't they? Wrong.) and now that I've found out that they're talking (well, the girl still likes me, so her friend says) then I feel as though I'm going to be naturally nervous or insecure when I'm talking to her now, knowing that I'm going to have to compete with a "popular" kid. Or, I could be completely blowing this out of proportion, which I probably am. But I can't let myself psyche myself out, so I'm wondering what your guys' opinions are on it.

How important is popularity to a girl? Me and this guy are both tall, good looking, and we're both confident. The only advantage he has over me is that he was friends with her first and that he hangs out with the popular kids (which for some reason I feel makes him better than me), but I'm actually doing something with my life (I placed first place in Colorado in a film competition and I'm going to pursue that, has already gotten me some tail) and he's an idiot as most jocks are. Girls are in abundance for both of us. It all comes down to me holding true to my principals back two years ago where I stood up for a kid getting picked on by the jocks and got into a fight with one of the jocks and kicked the **** out of him because they're a bunch of tools. That's basically the reason why I'm not in with that crowd, although at times I wonder if I should've taken the plunge for more ass.

I need to not psyche myself out guys, if you guys have any words of encouragement or war stories or any advice on the matter, let that **** rip, I could definitely use it. My main concern is just not letting my mind blow it out of proportion. But, it's really oh well, if I botch this up somehow, I've got a nice lineup of other girls I'm looking at right now anyway. But, right now, I want her, and I'm going to get her.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Luminescence

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Popularity is very important for girls; or a better term would be ''social status''. Reputation is everything for them and they will usually latch on to anyone that gives them a step up within their social circle.

It will be interesting to see how things turn out.
 

Aragon034

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you're in your last year of highschool? or first year of college?

the whole idea that because he's got the social circle of jocks around him making him better than you is BS. You've got to stop thinking about him as competition, and start thinking about what YOU want.

I agree with Luminescence that to girls popularity means alot, but the issue is, do you really want a girl who'll choose popularity instead of a credible, superior man?

Just run your game, show higher value, and don't let that 'jock' faze you.
 

L777

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Its really sad that you think someone is better than you based on who you hang out with....although from your description of yourself you sound pretty jock-ish as well.

If girls really were "in abundance" for you I doubt you'd be obsessing over this one girl.

How about....become actually interesting and go after cool girls rather than frat-boy groupies? I know thats an alien concept for American males but it couldn't hurt to try.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Sure, Social Proof can give u an edge but a true player can beat a guy with social status in the end. A true player doesn't care if a guy knows more people. His subcommunication shows that he's better than all that. Girls will notice this. If social proof was all thats needed, then ALL guys who got social proof would get laid which isn't the case.
 
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