Gaming a girl I messed up with. Need help.

[Jack Hensy]

I had a few dates with this girl and I messed up on the 2nd date. We got into a miscommunication over something stupid. A friend of mine got drunk was trying to find out if she liked me. BIG MISTAKE. I think he was trying to hit on her while I was dating her. So he is no longer a friend.
I waited a week and sent her a message to clear things up and re-attract her.
I am spinning plates at this time for other options.

Here is the email I sent her today....not sure what her attraction level is towards me.

Chloe,
To be truthful, I deleted your number because I did not want to contact you until things simmered down and was trying to respect your space.
I wanted to get to know you by going out, sharing common interests and having fun.
I liked that you were born and raised out west. I wanted to ask you more about yourself.
I hope your trip in Denver is going well.
It would be nice to spend New Years with you. A cool birthday present right there. lol
You have my number if you change your mind. If not, then it is your choice and I have to accept it.


Jack,
What a nice message - I really appreciate it . I kinda have to tell you something, but I truly don't want to cause ANY problems. You have a good friend out there that has your back, but gave me a bit of a hard time after we went out, saying I led you on, you said I was a little "off" anyway, etc... It really made me feel bad, as I did not mean to do that in any way....


----Her message is convoluted. Should I back off? Send her another email? Is her attraction unclear? Any suggestions?

 

[parkthebus]

Wait a few days a respond in your own words "sorry about him his behaviour wasn't cool. Do you want to do x?

 

[Reykhel]

http://www.loveshack.org/

 

[Desdinova]

You did not get a response about new years. Do not send her anything else until she responds, and that's if she responds.

I had a few dates with this girl and I messed up on the 2nd date. We got into a miscommunication over something stupid. A friend of mine got drunk was trying to find out if she liked me.

WTF were you doing having your friend in tow on the second date? The first few dates should consist of one-on-one interaction ONLY. When you become exclusive, then you can introduce her to your buddies.

 

[Tictac]

You did not get a response about new years. Do not send her anything else until she responds, and that's if she responds.



WTF were you doing having your friend in tow on the second date? The first few dates should consist of one-on-one interaction ONLY. When you become exclusive, then you can introduce her to your buddies.

I swear that this guy reads the DJ Bible and the responses to his posts here and does everything within his power to do precisely the opposite.

 

[marmel75]

1) Why was your friend out with you on a date?
2) Your message isn't going to "re-attract" her...if anything it comes off as needy and lame. Lame statement after lame statement in that "novella" to her. She is rolling her eyes reading that.
3) Congrats, welcome to the "friendzone"

Interested women don't confuse you. Her interest seems pretty low.

Again, as I always say, too many men waste 90% of their time trying to convince uninterested women to be more interested in them instead of putting that time to good use by going out and finding women who are actually interested in them.

Honestly tho, you have a lot of work to do, so I would probably work on learning things because you are going to keep finding yourself in these situations if you continue acting the way you are. You come off as if you have no options, which is the ultimate attraction killer for a woman.