"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Game While Dancing

pinhas

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What do you guys talk about with girls your dancing with?

It happens quite often to me; where I am dancing with a girl in a club and its going well, but then she loses interest. I know its becuase I dont really talk to her while we are dancing.

What are some good things to say/do while you are on the dance floor?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lead them. ie hold them tight and push and pull them around the dance floor.

spin them around, dip them just have fun with it.

laugh and smile. if you suck at dancing just laugh at how funny you must look.

Just joke with them, they will probably say something like, "you got some moves" and if you suck say "ya im a dance instructor" or "im a choreographer"
 

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I am actually a good dancer; when I get into it I sometimes even get carried away with the spinning and leading and I actually noticed I put off some girls; they just don’t expect to be thrown around like that.

My question is more about the chit-chat that happens while dancing. I noticed that after a while, you can’t just dance around; some further interaction is needed. I always see guys "whisper sweet nothings" in the girls eat and I guess that part is what I am having trouble with. I don’t want to talk when I dance and the girlies seem like they do.
 
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