"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Gal has been texting me alot

Jizz

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lately, and ive been texting her back, but i feel like were heading straight into the just friends zone, she has a bf, so i cant say something that i would normally say, like lets stop texting, meet up and get together

but i dont wanna be heading for the just friends zone, the texting is mainly usual chit chat, like hey howz ur day been etc etc, and sometimes she mentions how her bf is a knob, i just ignore those comments and try and change the subject

i feel the texting has to stop, how do i let her know this, without being rude and not texting her back at all?...

would just telling her "look its great chatting to you but but i dont wanna become one of your galfriends, so the texting should be kept to a minimum and we should just use it to arrange when were meeting up"

btw, yes she does have a bf, but i do feel she is kinda intrested in me, we flirt quite a bit at college, but shes admitted shes flirty with everyone, and shes also admitted shes a bit of an attention seeker and her bf doesnt give her any, which does make me think she is using me for attention and her bf hates me and has admitted hes jelous to her, which also makes me think shes using me to get at him a bit (she once text me infront of him, asking me "so do you fancy me then?" (wasnt a random question, a gal at college told her i did and we were chatting about her)

cheers for any advice
 

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yes she does have a bf.........but shes admitted shes flirty with everyone, and shes also admitted shes a bit of an attention seeker
Why bother?
 

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next her dude, while she has the bf.
 
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