That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I didn't say gaining 6lbs a week, i said I once gained 6lbs in a week. And it is very possible! How do you think all those hollywood stars bulk up extremely quickly to get wedge for their roles eg. Christian Bale in Batman, or Hugh Jackman for Xmen. They eat ****loads, combined with a very good workout routine involving squats and deadlifts. When bulking up for Xmen origins, Hugh Jackman said he ate a chicken a day as part of his diet. If you could only put on less than 1lb muscle a month like you claim, then how do these actors get wedge in a few months for their role?blinkwatt101 said:I'm sorry but anyone educated in building muscle(read not fat) knows that's gaining 6lbs/week is bullsh1t unless you are on a PED.
Indeed, it will get rid of the veins and the chiselled abs, but you are STILL gaining muscle. If you don't care amount momentarily losing the veiny look and 6 pack, then you can put on muscle quickly.blinkwatt101 said:Putting on 2-3% bodyfat/month is a lot. It's the difference between your veins showing through your chest/shoulders and barely having a six pack. Basically put it this way. You go to a river,one dude has nice flat abs,and i mean FLAT at 5%. His clone comes by at 7-8%...looks like **** compared to the 5% version. When you have a low bodyfat 2-3% can mean the world.
I think it is highly unlikely.Deniska said:Is it honestly possible to gain 5lbs of muscle per week by working out 5-6 days a week?
No steroids, no magic pills, constantly working out and eating.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They're called PEDs. Or, in lay terms, steroids.CaptainJ said:How do you think all those hollywood stars bulk up extremely quickly to get wedge for their roles eg. Christian Bale in Batman, or Hugh Jackman for Xmen?
Indeed, I never said it would all be muscle, i mentioned that some of it would be fat+fluids etc. But even as you accept, 3lbs+ of muscle a week is still possible. Now considering that I don't eat much for a powerlifter (3 average meals a day), someone who was drinking a full Gallon a day, along with eating 6 good meals a day, doing lots of squatting and deadlifts, followed by getting lots of sleep and recovery would definetly be able to get 5lbs of muscle a week or more. The only problem is that it is an extremely grueling, difficult, not to mention expensive lifestyle and could only be kept up for a short time.Colossus said:They're called PEDs. Or, in lay terms, steroids.
YES, Hugh Jackman did have an impeccable diet when he was getting into shape. And he trained rigorously. But unless he took a year off to get into Wolverine shape, he was using some sort of PED, likely Winstrol or Anavar. I 110% guarantee you. You think he is going to talk about that on Oprah?!?
If you were drinking 6 pints of milk a day and squatting heavily, I'm sure you gained some considerable muscle, but guess what else you gained??? FAT. Just because you aren't displaying signs of subcutaneous fat accumulation doesn't mean there isn't visceral fat accumulation.
I'll say it as bluntly as I can: Unless you are on an AAS, if you gained 6 lbs in a week it is NOT ALL MUSCLE. It is not even 50% muscle. Think about what 3 lbs of steak looks like. That's a lot of meat, right? Now imagine your body biosynthesizing that much muscle tissue in 1 week. If you believe that is possible you need to put down the Flex magazine and pick up a physiology textbook. :crazy:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What a load of BS. Do you know anything about strength training? I've done exactly what you just outlined and not even close to 5lbs muscle/week. Probably a lost cause, but don't listen to this hogwash. 0.5lb/week is doable, 1lb MAYBE. 5lbs? You're on crack.CaptainJ said:Indeed, I never said it would all be muscle, i mentioned that some of it would be fat+fluids etc. But even as you accept, 3lbs+ of muscle a week is still possible. Now considering that I don't eat much for a powerlifter (3 average meals a day), someone who was drinking a full Gallon a day, along with eating 6 good meals a day, doing lots of squatting and deadlifts, followed by getting lots of sleep and recovery would definetly be able to get 5lbs of muscle a week or more. The only problem is that it is an extremely grueling, difficult, not to mention expensive lifestyle and could only be kept up for a short time.
Yes you would gain a lot of fat, but you would gain much more muscle.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.