"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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disfunktional

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Sorry guys think I am gonna have to bail. Being on night shifts this and next week I am asleep all day so I have no time. I'm gonna restart after a finish my night shifts and get back to normal working hours!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SdotL

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Originally posted by disfunktional
Sorry guys think I am gonna have to bail. Being on night shifts this and next week I am asleep all day so I have no time. I'm gonna restart after a finish my night shifts and get back to normal working hours!
That's sad to hear.. but aren't you free on wkends?
maybe work on the exercises on the wkends?
 

Microphone Fiend

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3 days and 2 hi's :confused: U really gonna cut it close huh?

Did anyone get double digits yet? Come on fellas, I know you can do it..You just need to push harder... Stay in the field until you achieve your goals
 

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Originally posted by SdotL
That's sad to hear.. but aren't you free on wkends?
maybe work on the exercises on the wkends?
Asleep most of Saturday but yeah I got Sunday free, but I aint gonna get 50 'Hi's' done in that one day! I think I am better off waiting until I am back on 9-5 as I can go out every day every lunch time and there are loads of HB's round where I work :)
 

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Originally posted by disfunktional
Asleep most of Saturday but yeah I got Sunday free, but I aint gonna get 50 'Hi's' done in that one day! I think I am better off waiting until I am back on 9-5 as I can go out every day every lunch time and there are loads of HB's round where I work :)
Allright buddy good luck !
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BomBom

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Hey guys,
Gee, I have to work harder. My problem is I try to make my "hi" too special - I don´t do it unless it´s a good looking girl and we have made EC. I thought the task was 10 hi´s but just realized that it´s 50. I´m gonna have to start saying hi to everyone I meet :). The thing is that I found it even harder to say hi to a guy than a good looking girl - the guy will think I´m gay or a psycho but maybe that´s even better? To gain confidence one will have to do things without caring about what other people think, right?
Keep it up!
 

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been busy but went out to a frat party last night.

Count is at 15/50
 

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C'mon guys 15/50? Are you serious?!!!

I went to the mall for about 1 hour doing EC plus saying "hi." That night i did way over 50, i lost count.
Not only that but i got some convos in there.

I going back out for another hour. Push yourself. I went with another beginning DJ, he got 69 hi's. And he said it was a lot easier than he expected it to be.
 

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yea it is easy but i started to have conversations with the people i met. Anyways i will get the 50 by tomorrow. i hope everyone does the same.
 

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ok u guys got me.....lol

i kind did some of da work myself and survived thru week 4
but **** dat.........dat don't count!
i'm startin over

I'M IN!!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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