"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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So I was having a discussion with a girl over text and we had been flirting back and forth. She was insisting that we see each other some time next week (after she gets back from a camping trip) and I replied that when we meet up she should bring a piece of art work with her so i could finish it (I had left an unfinished piece of artwork at her place last time I was over to visit)

Later on during the discussion she said she really wanted to see me (intimately) and I was teasing her and told her "you may have competition, there is only so much of me to go around". I set my phone down for a moment and when I came back she said that she did not like being "measured to other people" then later said "see you later i guess....". I could not talk to her further because she had left for the trip and will not get cell reception.

The odd thing here is that we are fwb so I didn't think the overtly stating that there was competition would be a big deal? Is this girl crazy, having feelings for me, or am I missing something else completely?

The sex is awesome and i'd really like to keep the whole deal going...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"you may have competition, there is only so much of me to go around".
Personally I wouldn't have said this, she should assume that without a word anyway. It's not that big of a deal though. I wouldn't worry too much about her overreaction. Could be a sh!t test or she could just be an insecure weirdo. Either way just ignore it. Don't back track or talk about it with her if that's what your thinking.
 

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Yes. Unfortunately I only considered that after I had already said it, I got caught up in the moment.

I did reply, but it was very brief. I just pointed out that I had already said that we would hang out and that i was only teasing her. I suppose my best move would have been to say nothing but I was completely caught off guard.

Oh well, I will learn from that.

Thanks for the reply.
 

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"Wow - you really lose your sense of humor when youre tired don't you?!"

Saved me from a few negs going the wrong way.
 

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Looks like I have a lot to learn. I have been reading a lot of the content on this site and my perspective is radically changing. I have been going about things in a completely ass backwards way!

I am not going to worry about this girl anymore, if she re-initiates conversation i will take it for there, but otherwise I'm done letting it sit in my head space.

Thanks for all the advice!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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