Gratitude to Braddock on Attractionforums. Have a read of this. Basic simple pointers if you're looking for Club/Bar One Night Stands.
If you are a guy that is ONLY looking for same night lays, here are a few things that will help you have more consistent success. There are so many things that go into having good same night game and there are so many different styles you can take. Remember, these are just generalities. Every girl has a different blueprint that may take one or several of the things mentioned below.
Some guys go super sexual verbally and escalate really fast, some guys are all about sexual framing, some guys are all about building massive comfort, and other guys are all about building huge amounts of sexual tension through push/pull until the girl basically pulls them into the bedroom (my personal favorite). Maybe one day I will have time to write extensively on same night lay game, but for now here are a few pointers that should help…
SNL Threshold: Any girl can turn into a snl. Even the sweetest girl or most high value woman in the world “could” have a same night lay. If the right guy came along at the right time, it could happen. Tyler D used to say that it’s all about finding her blueprint.
The problem is that each woman has a different threshold for what it would take to have sex with a guy the same night. Some women will literally go their entire life and never have sex with a guy the same night she met him, because her threshold is so high. Not because she's "so moral" but because so many strange variables would have to be covered it would be almost impossible. Some women’s threshold is so high that it’s impossible for almost anyone on the planet to get there in one night.
The thought of having sex on the same night for some women might be so taboo that no matter how turned on, attracted, and comfortable with the guy she was, her threshold might only be met by a guy who looks like Brad Pitt, runs perfect game, logistically her friends couldn't know about it, it had to be the perfect location, and she has to be feeling XYZ feelings etc etc etc....
If one of those things was off, she wouldn't have sex. The moon, the sun, and the stars would have to align for you to have sex with her that night.
Most girls aren't like this, I'm just making the case for some women so you don't beat yourself up every time a woman won't go home with you.
The point is that if you are obsessed with same night lays, you need to get good at reading girls thresholds. I’m not talking about listening to what she says exactly…..IE “You know I’m not going to have sex with you right?” We all know what she can say, often times betrays what she really feels.
No, what I’m talking about are things that are obvious red flags that “most of the time” spell an extremely high threshold that will put the breaks on the same night lay later that night.
If she gives major resistance to any of the below….next set!
If you are obsessed with SNL’s than you will want to screen any girl out that has a moderate to high threshold. Screen for girls that have a medium to low same night threshold.
(All these assume you understand calibration and assume you had massive attraction)
• She flinches multiple times at the idea of bouncing: Most women will give token resistance to bouncing back to your place, but a woman with a high SNL threshold will flinch hard every time you even hint at bouncing no matter how attracted she is.
• Flinches when you escalate: I’m not talking about a girl who doesn’t want to look like a slut in front of her friends. I’m talking about the woman who will barely let you hold her hand. She may logistically follow you around the club and would stand there all night long but won’t let you make even the most basic of escalation….MOVE ON!!
• Bad Logistics: If she lives 45 minutes away and she is with a carload of friends than I suggest you move on. Even if you could pull this girl, who wants to drive her back 45 minutes away in the morning? Besides that, in most cases terrible logistics will override attraction and she will end up not going home with you. So….find out logistics early. Who did she come with? Who drove? How far away does she live? Etc.. etc… If several of these questions get **** answers…..MOVE ON!!!!
• She flinches when you joke sexually: Once again I’m not talking about when you don’t have attraction and you are trying to talk sexual like a horny 7th grader. I’m talking about when you know she is interested and she just won’t bite on any kind of sexual role play, sexual frames, sexual teasing, sexual qualification….If I can’t put her in at least a semi sexual state, than I’m moving on.
Same Night Lays are much more complex than this obviously and these are generalities, but for you advanced guys it should make sense.
Remember, most of your mom's fall in the "Low SNL Threshold." My mom would of course be in the "High SNL Threshold."
