"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fvckin with girls!!

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Okay well, a few nights ago I was online with my ex. Earlier that day I told her I had to have a talk with her later and for the rest of the day she wouldn't stop asking me about what ( I obviously wanted her to just ekep thinkin about it lol). So anyways, I got online and I told her thanks for comin to prom with me and what not. She eventually told me she thought it was about someting else and I started to fvck with her. The only thing here is at the time of this convo I was talking with a DJ online. He literally fed me EVERY SINGLE line (while fvckin with her). Now I'm not the kind of guy tahts good at doing this kind of talking. Where/what can I read to help me with this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oh,right.330 posts,still haven't learned how to talk.Anyways..

I think you should watch your DJ friends and see how they do it.Like you were talking to a DJ online,you should see what kind of replies he comes up with.Ask your friends who are good with girls as to how they remain funny/witty during a convo with a girl.It's not that hard to learn when you've got the right people around you.You're lucky you do,I didn't and still don't.

Just keep in mind that you're supposed to learn the basics of being witty,and not the exact lines your DJ friends use.
 

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no , theres a big diffrence here....I can VERY easily talk to girls. I just never took the time to learn how to FVCK with girls. THers a big diffrence there.
 

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^LoL.

I knew exactly what you meant.I didn't say that you had problems talking to girls.I know that the problem lies in being witty.

Anyways,my reply still holds full and good meaning.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not everyone is good at being witty, aka: "fvckin' with girls." You can develop it a little, but if you don't have the skills, it won't be there. Besides, why be "fed" lines if you can't use them in person?

Or, you know, listen to some comedians and listen to HOW they say something that gets a good reaction, not WHAT they say.
 
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