"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
fvcked a friend
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Is that how you would treat a friend?handle said:as in, she actually is a friend. I think she wants a relationship. do I tell her straight up that I'm not interested in something committed right now, or just continue being ambiguous and continue fvcking her?
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
If I'm not reading her right, and I don't know where her intentions are, then discussing "what this whole thing between us is" just comes off as out of the blue and out of touch with what's happening.
My original post is a poor choice of words.
Maxtro said:Friends with benefits? Just don't do stuff that you would only do to a girlfriend.
How do you bring something like that up smoothly? Or do you even bring it up?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
A word of caution: I have never been in your situation so be aware of that when you read my posts.
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