Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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as in, she actually is a friend. I think she wants a relationship. do I tell her straight up that I'm not interested in something committed right now, or just continue being ambiguous and continue fvcking her?
 

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handle said:
as in, she actually is a friend. I think she wants a relationship. do I tell her straight up that I'm not interested in something committed right now, or just continue being ambiguous and continue fvcking her?
Is that how you would treat a friend?
 

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well, I have to be honest and say that I don't know what I want out of it. If I make some sort of big deal about this thing, I can lose her as a friend (I mean, if I'm in her shoes and I get this whole 'well, we had sex and now I just want to make it clear to you that I'm uninterested in any prolonger emotional attachment' line, I'd be pissed off.)
If I'm not reading her right, and I don't know where her intentions are, then discussing "what this whole thing between us is" just comes off as out of the blue and out of touch with what's happening.

My original post is a poor choice of words.
 

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Maxtro said:
Friends with benefits? Just don't do stuff that you would only do to a girlfriend.

How do you bring something like that up smoothly? Or do you even bring it up?
 

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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wouldn't bring anything up. Since you have had sex with her, you have already crossed that line. Personally I would not discus it with her but just keep doing it (her?) The first thing that happens is that YOU need to decide what you want out of this. Do you want a relationship, to stay friends with benefits or to stop having sex?

A word of caution: I have never been in your situation so be aware of that when you read my posts.
 

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^^ Agreed. However, you need to make sure you know what you want. Let her bring that topic up, and when she does you can honestly tell her that you've been thinking about what's going on between you two. For all you know she may just want to be a fvck buddy. Don't assume. Unless it's been discussed, nothing is known.
 
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