"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
fvck.. gave away the frame, can i get it back?
- Thread starter big weezy
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mantis Toboggan
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So now, every time you interact with a girl, you think of it in PUA terms "Gave away frame"..."Shyt test"..."Too available"...
You texted the girl and you asked her to meet you. She said Friday. And now you're thinking about canceling on her for Friday just to "get your frame".
You gotta loosen up. If this b*tch doesn't like you, then you'll find another one. But whether she likes you or doesn't like you will have NOTHING to do with these gay little games you try to play.
People have already warned you about this in your other threads....By the way, you should look at the other threads you've started. You're like Sosuave.com's version of The Heartbreak Kid.
Loosen up.
Ok, so should i contact her on thursday to confirm the dinner time for friday then?Mantis Toboggan said:Your problem is this - Somewhere along the line, you let a girl (or multiple girls) get into your head. And now, to make up for it, you read WAY WAY WAY too much PUA material.
So now, every time you interact with a girl, you think of it in PUA terms "Gave away frame"..."Shyt test"..."Too available"...
You texted the girl and you asked her to meet you. She said Friday. And now you're thinking about canceling on her for Friday just to "get your frame".
You gotta loosen up. If this b*tch doesn't like you, then you'll find another one. But whether she likes you or doesn't like you will have NOTHING to do with these gay little games you try to play.
People have already warned you about this in your other threads....By the way, you should look at the other threads you've started. You're like Sosuave.com's version of The Heartbreak Kid.
Loosen up.
Mantis Toboggan
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Do whatever the hell you want.big weezy said:Ok, so should i contact her on thursday to confirm the dinner time for friday then?
Call her Thursday to confirm.
Call her Friday to confirm.
If the girl likes you, then it's not going to ruin her attraction for you to call her to confirm.
If she doesn't like you, then she's going to flake anyway.
Like I said...loosen up. You're not failing with women because of breaking all these corny PUA rules. You're failing because you're way too uptight about all this stuff.
I understand. You gotta get laid. But damn. Chill.
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In my experience you can't build attraction thru text game. But you can kill it.
You had a great first date. But you're scaring her away with your needy, overly verbose texts.
Keep it calm, cool, and casual. You already have attraction (though you're losing it). Don't try to game her over text. Keep it strictly to logistics. Save the gaming for in person.
Read this:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/an-analysis-of-text-game/
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
spinaroonie said:Your text game needs work.
In my experience you can't build attraction thru text game. But you can kill it.
You had a great first date. But you're scaring her away with your needy, overly verbose texts.
Keep it calm, cool, and casual. You already have attraction (though you're losing it). Don't try to game her over text. Keep it strictly to logistics. Save the gaming for in person.
Read this:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/an-analysis-of-text-game/
i agree, i think his messages are screaming "you're trying to hard!" just kick back and act like you're the man.