"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
fvck.. gave away the frame, can i get it back?
- Thread starter big weezy
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mantis Toboggan
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So now, every time you interact with a girl, you think of it in PUA terms "Gave away frame"..."Shyt test"..."Too available"...
You texted the girl and you asked her to meet you. She said Friday. And now you're thinking about canceling on her for Friday just to "get your frame".
You gotta loosen up. If this b*tch doesn't like you, then you'll find another one. But whether she likes you or doesn't like you will have NOTHING to do with these gay little games you try to play.
People have already warned you about this in your other threads....By the way, you should look at the other threads you've started. You're like Sosuave.com's version of The Heartbreak Kid.
Loosen up.
Ok, so should i contact her on thursday to confirm the dinner time for friday then?Mantis Toboggan said:Your problem is this - Somewhere along the line, you let a girl (or multiple girls) get into your head. And now, to make up for it, you read WAY WAY WAY too much PUA material.
So now, every time you interact with a girl, you think of it in PUA terms "Gave away frame"..."Shyt test"..."Too available"...
You texted the girl and you asked her to meet you. She said Friday. And now you're thinking about canceling on her for Friday just to "get your frame".
You gotta loosen up. If this b*tch doesn't like you, then you'll find another one. But whether she likes you or doesn't like you will have NOTHING to do with these gay little games you try to play.
People have already warned you about this in your other threads....By the way, you should look at the other threads you've started. You're like Sosuave.com's version of The Heartbreak Kid.
Loosen up.
Mantis Toboggan
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Do whatever the hell you want.big weezy said:Ok, so should i contact her on thursday to confirm the dinner time for friday then?
Call her Thursday to confirm.
Call her Friday to confirm.
If the girl likes you, then it's not going to ruin her attraction for you to call her to confirm.
If she doesn't like you, then she's going to flake anyway.
Like I said...loosen up. You're not failing with women because of breaking all these corny PUA rules. You're failing because you're way too uptight about all this stuff.
I understand. You gotta get laid. But damn. Chill.
spinaroonie
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In my experience you can't build attraction thru text game. But you can kill it.
You had a great first date. But you're scaring her away with your needy, overly verbose texts.
Keep it calm, cool, and casual. You already have attraction (though you're losing it). Don't try to game her over text. Keep it strictly to logistics. Save the gaming for in person.
Read this:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/an-analysis-of-text-game/
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
spinaroonie said:Your text game needs work.
In my experience you can't build attraction thru text game. But you can kill it.
You had a great first date. But you're scaring her away with your needy, overly verbose texts.
Keep it calm, cool, and casual. You already have attraction (though you're losing it). Don't try to game her over text. Keep it strictly to logistics. Save the gaming for in person.
Read this:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2010/09/15/an-analysis-of-text-game/
i agree, i think his messages are screaming "you're trying to hard!" just kick back and act like you're the man.