"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Fvck buddy's boyfriend calling me

CantTouchMyStyle

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I have been banging this girl for a month or so and she has insisted she is single, but just got out of a relationship.

Anyways, tonight I got a call from the boyfriend pleading with me to tell him whether or not I slept with his girlfriend. She was with him tonight and texting me throughout the night. (He called from her phone)

He basically told me to be honest with him and he wouldn't be mad, he was madly in love with this girl, wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, etc.

I felt bad, but she did tell me he was a bit of whack job and had put his hands on her (not hit, but gotten close) so I didn't want to really blow up her spot like that when she was with him.

I am thinking about calling him tomorrow and just letting him know, because I feel bad for him.

What would you do? Obviously, I am done banging this girl..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Black suit

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Er, don't. Say something like ''Naw, man just some innocent flirting. Get a hold of yourself dammit.'' or sth..

You're not gonna be doing anyone a favor by snitching on the girl and letting the AFC know a terrible truth.
 

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He already suspects it and probably just wants confirmation.
Save him or lie for her..... meh
Why didn't she just tell him the truth:crackup:
 

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Just ignore him. Don't ruin it for her. For all you know, he could be playing a trick on you. He could also a possessive bf who will destroy you if he confirms that you're sleeping with his girl.
 

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Loose lips sink good ships. Don't say nothing. Deny till you die.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Just tell him. Nobody wins by not telling him. You're done banging her. Let him know before he does something stupid like proposes in a sad attempt to keep her.

Hell, take him out for a beer and show him some light.
 

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Offer a gang-bang. I am serious. Both you(obvious fun time), the girl(many like being double stretched), and the bf(will cure his one-itis and possible repressed sexuality-induced fits of anger) will gain from it.
 

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I wouldnt confirm or deny anything. Its not YOUR RELATIONSHIP to fix. Step away and get out while you can. If he happens to call you back, just let him know that you cant speak on anything. leave it at that.
 

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L B said:
Just ignore him. Don't ruin it for her. For all you know, he could be playing a trick on you. He could also a possessive bf who will destroy you if he confirms that you're sleeping with his girl.
Place your safety and enjoyment over everything.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AAAgent

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DavenJuan said:
I wouldnt confirm or deny anything. Its not YOUR RELATIONSHIP to fix. Step away and get out while you can. If he happens to call you back, just let him know that you cant speak on anything. leave it at that.
This is how i handle situations dealing with anything someone tells me that they deem confidential. It's really not my place to say something or confirm/deny what someone have placed in my confidence. If they want to find out i tell them to go to the source directly.

They usually leave you alone and confront the source and you can't be blamed. This is slightly different case since your partly the cause of the problem but i still wouldn't confirm anything.
 

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You sure he's still with her? He might have been the one lying... just some tool she's still hangin out with and him thinking they might get back together
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CantTouchMyStyle

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mr.@pplesauce said:
You sure he's still with her? He might have been the one lying... just some tool she's still hangin out with and him thinking they might get back together
She denies they are together.

Even texted me this morning saying they werent together.

But, he was her "date" last night.

:rolleyes:
 

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Same thing happened to me when I was about 21. I dumped the chick and refused to talk to the guy.. don't want others' domestic drama brought into my life.
 
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