"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fvck buddy's boyfriend calling me

CantTouchMyStyle

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I have been banging this girl for a month or so and she has insisted she is single, but just got out of a relationship.

Anyways, tonight I got a call from the boyfriend pleading with me to tell him whether or not I slept with his girlfriend. She was with him tonight and texting me throughout the night. (He called from her phone)

He basically told me to be honest with him and he wouldn't be mad, he was madly in love with this girl, wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, etc.

I felt bad, but she did tell me he was a bit of whack job and had put his hands on her (not hit, but gotten close) so I didn't want to really blow up her spot like that when she was with him.

I am thinking about calling him tomorrow and just letting him know, because I feel bad for him.

What would you do? Obviously, I am done banging this girl..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Black suit

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Er, don't. Say something like ''Naw, man just some innocent flirting. Get a hold of yourself dammit.'' or sth..

You're not gonna be doing anyone a favor by snitching on the girl and letting the AFC know a terrible truth.
 

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He already suspects it and probably just wants confirmation.
Save him or lie for her..... meh
Why didn't she just tell him the truth:crackup:
 

L B

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Just ignore him. Don't ruin it for her. For all you know, he could be playing a trick on you. He could also a possessive bf who will destroy you if he confirms that you're sleeping with his girl.
 

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Loose lips sink good ships. Don't say nothing. Deny till you die.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Teflon_Mcgee

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Just tell him. Nobody wins by not telling him. You're done banging her. Let him know before he does something stupid like proposes in a sad attempt to keep her.

Hell, take him out for a beer and show him some light.
 

Cry For Love

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Offer a gang-bang. I am serious. Both you(obvious fun time), the girl(many like being double stretched), and the bf(will cure his one-itis and possible repressed sexuality-induced fits of anger) will gain from it.
 

DavenJuan

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I wouldnt confirm or deny anything. Its not YOUR RELATIONSHIP to fix. Step away and get out while you can. If he happens to call you back, just let him know that you cant speak on anything. leave it at that.
 

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L B said:
Just ignore him. Don't ruin it for her. For all you know, he could be playing a trick on you. He could also a possessive bf who will destroy you if he confirms that you're sleeping with his girl.
Place your safety and enjoyment over everything.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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AAAgent

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DavenJuan said:
I wouldnt confirm or deny anything. Its not YOUR RELATIONSHIP to fix. Step away and get out while you can. If he happens to call you back, just let him know that you cant speak on anything. leave it at that.
This is how i handle situations dealing with anything someone tells me that they deem confidential. It's really not my place to say something or confirm/deny what someone have placed in my confidence. If they want to find out i tell them to go to the source directly.

They usually leave you alone and confront the source and you can't be blamed. This is slightly different case since your partly the cause of the problem but i still wouldn't confirm anything.
 

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You sure he's still with her? He might have been the one lying... just some tool she's still hangin out with and him thinking they might get back together
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CantTouchMyStyle

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mr.@pplesauce said:
You sure he's still with her? He might have been the one lying... just some tool she's still hangin out with and him thinking they might get back together
She denies they are together.

Even texted me this morning saying they werent together.

But, he was her "date" last night.

:rolleyes:
 

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Same thing happened to me when I was about 21. I dumped the chick and refused to talk to the guy.. don't want others' domestic drama brought into my life.
 
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