For those of you that arent aware, Tinder is a hookup app. Huge selection of honeys that are 7+/10...tons of college sloots. Anyway, im on there and browsing through when, BOOM my buddys GF profile pops up..saying active as of yesterday. So I screenshot. My plan is showing him and let him make his own decision from there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Fuuuark bros...found friends GF on Tinder
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I got a feeling this app is a game changer, it is bringing into the open what has been happening behind closed doors since the dawn of civilisation. Stuff like this will blow open even wider the great divide between AFCs and DJs. Not because it's based on looks, but because HBs now need AFCs even less than they ever did. They can now get their validation from the guys that they find attractive without even leaving the house.
Can anyone compete with this? I'm not sure. Our girlfriends and FBs will be so over-validated that even the slightest ounce of insecurity will be punished swiftly and remorselessly.
I have no problems with any of my girls dating other guys, especially if those other guys are giving them the validation, emotional support and gifts that I am withholding. I have my own plates anyway. If I can get favours or leverage out of it then even better.
Perhaps a complete lack of caring is the only response.
Can anyone compete with this? I'm not sure. Our girlfriends and FBs will be so over-validated that even the slightest ounce of insecurity will be punished swiftly and remorselessly.
I have no problems with any of my girls dating other guys, especially if those other guys are giving them the validation, emotional support and gifts that I am withholding. I have my own plates anyway. If I can get favours or leverage out of it then even better.
Perhaps a complete lack of caring is the only response.
gravityeyelids
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You're overreacting. Yes tinder is known as a "hookup" app. But not amongst girls. Girls see it as a game, and just laugh and tell each other the ridiculous things that guys send them. I know girls on there that have boyfriends. And if asked about it, they would probably simply say "oh i just use it for entertainment, i dont actually talk to guys on there. "
I'm not naive, i know girls can be dirty. But they are usually smart about cheating, and wouldnt do something so obvious as to put a profile intending to hookup on a public app where guys close to a geographic area are supposed to flip through and judge girls based on pictures if they were trying to sleep with those guys. Not to mention most of the guys on there are pathetic betas...not cheating with material.
If she wanted to fvck around on your friend, she will do so regardless of some stupid app that every college chick in the country uses, single or not. And she'd probably get away with it too.
Don't get your friend worked up about something that's nothing.
I'm not naive, i know girls can be dirty. But they are usually smart about cheating, and wouldnt do something so obvious as to put a profile intending to hookup on a public app where guys close to a geographic area are supposed to flip through and judge girls based on pictures if they were trying to sleep with those guys. Not to mention most of the guys on there are pathetic betas...not cheating with material.
If she wanted to fvck around on your friend, she will do so regardless of some stupid app that every college chick in the country uses, single or not. And she'd probably get away with it too.
Don't get your friend worked up about something that's nothing.
Adam, it's becoming evident over a large sampling of your posts that you have some serious rancor towards women. That stuff is poison - not just for your relationships but for you as well. I hope you one day decide to resolve some of those issues. You don't have to put them up on a pedestal, but ridding yourself of anger (towards anyone or anything, really) is going to make you a happier person. And who wouldn't want that?adam225 said:
(Apologies to the OP for this brief detour)
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Its not your place to report what his gf is doing. Mind ya Bidness. As the old saying goes "Snitches get Stitches"
However, I'm with Turwal, how do we combat this validation on steroids overload. At the rate this society is going, Marriages and LTRs will become some old folklore that's told over campfires along with ghost stories.
However, I'm with Turwal, how do we combat this validation on steroids overload. At the rate this society is going, Marriages and LTRs will become some old folklore that's told over campfires along with ghost stories.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
wtf? his friend's 2 timing girlfriend has no affiliation to him whatsoever and therefor, her interests should not be considered over his friendsSmooveMooves said:
tell him OP, let him know he was about to make a housewife out of a hoe