"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Funny Story... A Girl From the Past

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1996. I'm a teaching assistant in a high school computer class as an elective my senior year. Since my teacher knew squat about computers, I basically taught the class. It was filled with mostly sophomores. One of those sophomores was a girl named Christy. She was always extremely nice and extremely shy around me. I never really paid much attention (I had a girlfriend at the time) to her.

Fast forward to the end of last year. I transfer to a better, higher paying job in a different department in my company. My boss's secretary asks me if I went to high school with her daughter, Christy. And, of course, I did. Turns out, Christy works in that department, too. Small world.

She's talked to me a few times, and I always got a weird vibe from her... a sort of nervousness that usually accompanies girls when they are attracted yet intimidated by you.

So today I'm in the elevator alone with her and she's asking me all kinds of questions, trying to get me to talk. I talk to her briefly, and this time I get that same vibe except VERY strong. It makes me really wonder what's up.

Luckily, I'm friends with someone she's also good friends with. And without trying to revert completely back to junior high, I sent an email to my friend, basically saying, "Hey, don't read too much into this, but is Christy still single?"

She sends an email back asking, "Are you asking for yourself?"

I said, "I'm just curious. Do I have to be asking FOR anyone? You know how I feel about everyone I work with. I hate you all! j/k"

She responds, "Not at all." As in, I don't have to be asking FOR anyone. But she still dodges the question.

So I went over to her office and said, "Hey, I noticed you keep dancing around my question. What the hell."

She kind of laughs a little and pulls up her email and brings up an email Christy sent her a while ago. It's talking about Christy's ex, who hurt her really bad and blah blah blah.

Christy's ex was named Tracy. A girl named Tracy.

She says, "Does that answer your question?"

Oops. I guess that explains the weird vibe.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Listen up

Christy and you in an elevator

C: hi Gio
G: hey biatch i heard u are a dike....well not anymore....come over to my place tonight and svck me off
 

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Re: Listen up

Originally posted by ToP DoN
Christy and you in an elevator

C: hi Gio
G: hey biatch i heard u are a dike....well not anymore....come over to my place tonight and svck me off
wtf?
 

prosemont

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Maybe you're a lesbian trapped in a man's body. :D
 

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Originally posted by prosemont
Maybe you're a lesbian trapped in a man's body. :D
I bet that's what it is... I AM very mannish.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Re: Listen up

Originally posted by ToP DoN
Christy and you in an elevator

C: hi Gio
G: hey biatch i heard u are a dike....well not anymore....come over to my place tonight and svck me off
There is no way in hell you're 25. :rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by thissucks003
Maybe she's Bi-sexual?
I agree, just because she had a g/f in the past doesn't mean she is a man hating lesbian. The g/f in the past may have been just a phase she went through. Just be cautious, especially considering she's your boss's daughter.
 

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Originally posted by MacAvoy
I agree, just because she had a g/f in the past doesn't mean she is a man hating lesbian. The g/f in the past may have been just a phase she went through. Just be cautious, especially considering she's your boss's daughter.
She's my boss's SECRETARY's daughter, not my boss's daughter. Still, I'm not super keen on dating girls that I work with.
 
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