That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Translation - she wants *us* to be loyal, because being ENM she doesn't need d1ck. She's already getting her fill and letting you know about it.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Bay Area is home to a lot of bullshiit from women, especially polyamory and ethically non-monogamous.
Yep. It's changed so much. Things are changing. It's turning into a anything goes jungle out there.
I don't get how a guy could put up with that crap.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She's got the classic thousand c0ck stare. Is her husband and kids gonna watch when Mommy brings Chad home to have a f*ck session?
Any self-respecting man would never tolerate such a thing. If I were ever in a situation where I was dating a girl and she asked about making it an open relationship I would break up with her at once
I hope someone sees that wh0re's profile and lets the husband know what his "wife" is up to. He deserves to know so that he can leave her and move on. Many women these days truly have no shame
And it's all a psyop
Actually ENM, means she is doing it withher husband’s approval.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Damn didn't notice that bit, that's even worse. Point still stands, no self-respecting man would ever tolerate that
Have you see a lot of Bay Area men? They are dweebish, outnumber women drastically, and are thirsty for any sort of vagina.
Supposedly she is in a "non-monogaous relationship". Perhaps her husband is one of those guys that enjoy seeing his wife getting f**ked by another guy(s). This wouldn't have happened on a widespread scale 10 or 20 years ago. Indeed, the Western World is getting more and more degenerate and men more and more cucked. These two factors go hand in hand.
another one with the thousand c0ck stare..no wonder..another open marriage/open relationship wh0re.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How did we get to the point now where so many profiles have "non-monogamous relationships"?
No way she's 46. That pic is 20 years old
"married and ethically non monogamous" are orthogonal states. Being "loyal" and "ethically non monogamous" are also orthogonal states.
You've simply got to be ruthless in the early interaction stages with OLD.
This is everywhere, not just in the Bay Area.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
