"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Full Body or Split Workouts
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
stronglifts
Master Don Juan
If you just started out, go full body. Will make you learn the exercise technique better.Spade_1 said:Hey, I'm 16 5'8" and weight around 117lbs....I started lifting 3 times a week and my question is should I do full body or split workouts. Any other advice is appreciated.
Train 3 days a week, alternating between these:
Workout A:
Squat 5x5
Bench Press 5x5
Pull-ups: 3xfailure
Workout B:
Squat: 5x5
Overhead Press: 5x5
Deadlifts: 1x5
Start light, increase the weight on every workout for all exercises.
Good luck.
spesmilitis
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Starting out, you can make good and study gains doing only 2 or even 1 set per exercise per workout session. You will see steady increases of 1.25-2.5 lb increases to your PR. Also, recovery is quicker since you are doing low volume. Since you need very few sets per exercise to improve, a full body is best for beginners.
Another reason for the full body for beginners is that you will learn form faster. Some exercises take several sessions to get down, the two most complicated being squats and deadlifts.
do make sure you get the form right, and recognize that diet & rest are more important than the specifics of your program (presuming you pick a solid one).
Spade_1 said:Hey, I'm 16 5'8" and weight around 117lbs....I started lifting 3 times a week and my question is should I do full body or split workouts. Any other advice is appreciated.
Dude, maybe I'm totally off, but I think I can give you some solid advice, though not what you asked for.
I'm your same height, give or take, and I weigh 40 lbs more than you, yet I don't worry about routines and this kind of stuff yet. Shìt, I don't even watch my diet, though I'm a hardgainer. Unfortunately most people overanalyze bodybuilding rather than just doing some hard work. You don't grow by asking questions all the time or reading books. They can help, but you grow in the gym (and in bed, and in kitchen).
Unless you are a pro (which is not the case, since you should weigh at least 60 lbs more), all you need to know is "Lift, Eat - Rest, Repeat", nothing more than that. When you are over 150 lbs, you may come here and look for some info on how to reduce fat amounts, but until then just bust your @ss in the gym and in the kitchen and try to sleep 8 hours a night.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.