JaegerPilot217
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Maybe we should use Hugh Hefner as an example?user name said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Frustrations of a (very) late starter
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maybe self-acceptance is a place to start. You just referred back to an earlier version of yourself as being less-than-human. That's not a good sign.
Self-improvement has a very serious darkside, and that is self-judgment. In choosing to see your sexuality as flawed, you are engaging with that dark side, and hoping to become a patient in some internet dating evangelist's new surgery program to remove "Uncool Factor X" from you, which finally lets a person become Brad Pitt. Viewing yourself as uncool makes you uncool. Viewing your sexuality as flawed makes it flawed. Viewing your sexuality as broken makes it broken.
I know its a paradox, and I know what I've said isn't the whole truth, but only part of the story.
You'll need and want to strive towards a goal. But the more self-lovingly you do it, the faster you'll reach the place of self-acceptance where you can finally scratch yourself off your own "TODO" list.
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I married a girl 10 years my junior. She's 24 this year.
That said, why not take a trip to Thailand or the Phillippines. No need to re-learn game/life and all that crapp.
That said, why not take a trip to Thailand or the Phillippines. No need to re-learn game/life and all that crapp.
JaegerPilot217
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If a mans social value increases as he ages to me that sounds like most women don't care even if the man has lost his youthful looks, apparently that's what it seems
That is very well said. I can relate strongly to this guy, and in my case it might be even worse because not only am I this extreme nice guy, I'm also chronically ill, limiting my activity to the largest extent.NewJack said:
How do you accept yourself when there seems to be this huge lack, when you seem to be worth so little. How do you love yourself when you are so emotionally and sexually malnourished and you have none other to blame for this than your self?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
JaegerPilot217
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If it does get better for men as they age, and I'm starting to believe it more, then that tells me women could care less about a mans looks? I kinda new for a while they were not as important to women as they are to men but thought they still mattered more than it seems