"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How did you guys always stay aware of your behavior when you were DJ's? I'm trying to become more assertive/confident, but I always find myself saying unconfident or dumb things just by habit and only catching myself afterwards... also for body language I'm also finding it relaly hard to control because sometimes when I see a girl I just start doing stuff like scratching my head and I don't even realize I'm doing it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do stuff that requires confidence to succeed - sports, public speaking, etc...

Get yourself out of your comfort zone more often.
 

Tazman

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You can't fake "confidence." You can be more assertive, but stop trying to consciously appear confident because you place an unnecessary amount of pressure on yourself. Try to be more comfortable with who you are and things will flow more naturally.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ScrewIt

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Be interested, but not so interested that you're desperate. You do have other priorities in life that woman isnt the top of your list.
But you make time for them because your schedule is open.

It's all about security and knowing the outcome. insecurity of an uncertain outcome will almost always screw up your confidence.

That's what i've come to realize as of late.
 

PRMoon

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Take a few shots of Jack Daniels, and you'll be ready to get in to a gun fight. Talking to a girl should be no problem after that.

Thankyou Newton, where ever you are, you were a true genius.:rockon:
 
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