"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How did you guys always stay aware of your behavior when you were DJ's? I'm trying to become more assertive/confident, but I always find myself saying unconfident or dumb things just by habit and only catching myself afterwards... also for body language I'm also finding it relaly hard to control because sometimes when I see a girl I just start doing stuff like scratching my head and I don't even realize I'm doing it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do stuff that requires confidence to succeed - sports, public speaking, etc...

Get yourself out of your comfort zone more often.
 

Tazman

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You can't fake "confidence." You can be more assertive, but stop trying to consciously appear confident because you place an unnecessary amount of pressure on yourself. Try to be more comfortable with who you are and things will flow more naturally.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ScrewIt

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Be interested, but not so interested that you're desperate. You do have other priorities in life that woman isnt the top of your list.
But you make time for them because your schedule is open.

It's all about security and knowing the outcome. insecurity of an uncertain outcome will almost always screw up your confidence.

That's what i've come to realize as of late.
 

PRMoon

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Take a few shots of Jack Daniels, and you'll be ready to get in to a gun fight. Talking to a girl should be no problem after that.

Thankyou Newton, where ever you are, you were a true genius.:rockon:
 
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