Frustrated at not getting out tonight and hunting women.

[Rainman4707]

Its that crap time of year. I want to go cold approach but its ****ing dark and 0 degrees outside. this is me just twisting, feel frustrated that i cannot get out and approach tonight, i came in from work, had my tea, now i have no energy and am to full to go out and approach, people be like you have to do the work but some nights meh.

I do work mon day to friday, will do approaches in supermarket on my lunch, come home have my tea, then hit gym, weeknd i play footy.

Main point of the post is that sometimes my life gets in the way of me approching women, and i get frustrated because i have sosuave in my mind saying "You have to do the work"

I suppose there is still a few hours before bed, it's just so dark and cold here in the north of england and not many women about at this time of year

Was speaking to my friend about this just before and he said that i push myself to hard along the lines of :-

I actually think you're being a bit hard on yourself.

You've worked a full day, come home in the dark, had your tea, you're full, it's freezing outside and you've got very little energy.

And now you're beating yourself up because you haven't gone out approaching women.

There's something I want you to consider.

Cold approaching is supposed to improve your life, not become another job that makes you miserable.

I know how much you want to improve your confidence with women. I also know you sometimes feel that going to the gym, working and studying takes up so much of your time that your social life gets pushed aside.

But you cannot operate at 100% every evening.

There's a difference between discipline and punishment.
Discipline is going out when you'd rather stay in because you know it'll benefit you.

Punishment is sitting at home feeling like a failure because you didn't go out when you're exhausted.

Tonight sounds much more like the second.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@Rainman4707 "I want to go cold approach but its ****ing dark and 0 degrees outside"

No one except a bona fide monster is eager pull the trigger of an MK22 either, even when the individual in that rifle's crosshairs is a bloodthirsty Janjaweed commander. And yet, most reasonably intelligent folks are able to weigh up the probable ROI on such a venture, then fire the fatal shot

You're facing a similar dilemma here, hoss: Do what's likely to enrich your existence, despite the discomfort this might entail, or manufacture justifications for not acting

 

[Clockwerk50]

I guess you do put in the work, but I think much of this frustration could be alleviated if you had a more active social life, developed some hobbies, and found ways to socialize outside of approaching women.

 

[The Duke]

If you don't think your vibe/energy level is where it needs to be for socializing, I guarantee most of your audience will pick up on that as well. You won't be well received.

No point in banging your head against the Wall just to go thru the motions. Your time would be better spent doing something else.