"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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From the Horses Mouth

gettinit

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I have been working on this one girl that I run into here and there and went ahead and called her for a date. She said she had something planned, but would cancel. Apparently one of her orbiters was meeting her somewhere.

Quote:
"I already have plans with my friend John for dinner, but I can cancel. He is always asking me to do something so there won't be any problem rescheduling"

So, there you have it. She has seen me out with other women, so she knows I have options and have other things going on in my life. I wonder if John has any clue that he doesn't have a shot at all, while I have a date, which has a high probability of becoming physical, lined up?

For me, this strongly reinforces that fact that you shouldn't make yourself too available and make sure that your intentions are reasonably obvious. Although the Friendzone isn't inescapable, the odds that a guard in going to pick you off during your attempt are pretty darned high. You don't want to go there and it is preventable.

Only YOU can prevent the Friendzone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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