From pessimist in the US to optimist in the Philippines

[eurofile007]

UPDATE, May 2007: How I went from being a negative pessimist to a positive optimist (and it wasn't by changing myself)

There is good news now. As I'm writing this from the Philippines, I am happy to say that I am now a perpetual happy and positive optimist. How did I do it, you might ask?

Well it's simple, but it wasn't by changing "myself" (for I wasn't the problem). And it wasn't by changing my attitude, thoughts or going through some self-help/pop psychology/New Age program or seminar. In fact, I didn't even have to change myself or who I was. I just remained the same person. Instead, it was simply by changing my geographic LOCATION, environment and culture, entering another world so to speak. Let me explain.

In the US, no one talks to me except old people, I can't get any dates at all, women are completely anti-social to me, strangers act like I don't exist, and I am totally ignored and feel like I don't exist. Unfortunately, women in America generally don’t like to meet new people. They don’t even talk to you unless you are in their clique or they grew up with you, or it’s business-related. And that’s unacceptable to me. But everything I do to try to change all that seems futile, as if trying to change any of it goes completely against the flow and against the grain, inappropriate and out-of-bounds! Ick! It's a no-win situation, or a serious incompatibility at least.

So, with everything that I am suppressed, strangled, and invalidated, how could I possibly be happy or positive, when I can't be who I truly am or act out my nature of being an outgoing fun vibrant social butterfly? It's simply not possible, nor is it natural.

But on the other hand, here in the Philippines, I can be who I truly am, and when I do so, it gets very POSITIVE results! The social environment here completely allows, encourages, and adds fuel to my very social outgoing nature, especially with women! Here, I NEVER have to be alone if I don't want to. I ALWAYS have many hot women to choose from, of all types - dark skin (chocolate), light skin (vanilla), medium olive color, cute, sexy, tall or short, etc. (If you think my ice cream comparisons are bad or cheesy, get this - when a dark skinned and light skinned Filipina are together, they like to refer to themselves as "coffee and cream") Often I have so many contenders that I don't have time for them all and have to cancel a lot of plans!

Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am! I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here! And that's HUGE! It means more than words can say. Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise! Literally. No exaggerating here.

Thus, I am finally allowed to be the social butterfly that I am, as well as positive, confident, optimistic and happy. How can I not be, when all my fantasies and desires and wants/needs are being fulfilled here, naturally and with the flow too!? Simply put, who I am is ACCENTUATED here, rather than invalidated or suppressed.

Some people here even say that I'm the most positive and confident person they've ever met. (If only they knew where I was coming from!) The difference is astounding. It's like a completely different universe where I'm a completely different person. The magnitude of my dating life here is literally "out of this world" (out of the world of America that is).

And it's not because they all want my money (although there are always a portion of bad apples, scammers, and hustlers here that I can run into), as many girls don't care about my money and STILL like/love me even after knowing that I'm a cheapskate and very frugal. Many nice angels here don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just like "being with me".

In fact, some of the relationships I have here even eclipse the romances portrayed in Hollywood films, to the point where when I watch them, I say to myself, "I have a lot better than that in real life!" And that's something I could NEVER EVER have said in the USA! In fact, I don’t even watch TV here (like the millions of couch potatoes in America, of which I used to be one of) because I have no need to, as my REAL LIFE is more exciting to me than what’s on the tube!

The most significant difference for me is this: When I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the US, they think I'm a creep, and react with hatred and/or antisociality. But when I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the Philippines (and in most other countries), their response is overwhelmingly positive, and react with enthusiasm and/or attraction. That's a whole world of difference. As an incredible example, when I go to the local mall here in the Philippines, about 90 percent of the girls will give me their number if I ask for it, even if they are really hot and the kind that you would say “ouch!” and consider out of your league! 90 percent! But in the states, that percentage is…….. yep you guessed it, zero! What a universe of difference! In fact, most of the time, they enjoy being "picked up" and "hit on", finding me charming and attractive. And my sweet talk and compliments make them feel good about themselves, so they like being with me.

In my opinion, Filipinas make the best girlfriends, lovers, and friends. Compared to females in the other Asian countries, they aren't as strict, serious, prudish or hung up. Instead, they are relaxed, carefree, happy go lucky, easygoing, playful and sensual. They are also very nonjudgmental and nonracist. And they have a great sense of humor, enjoying the silliest things which easily amuse them. Thus, you can always have fun and joke around or play with them, even if you have nothing else to talk about. That's so nice and refreshing, especially when you are so accustomed to antisociality and hostility from women in the US.

Best of all, they LOVE to flirt. When I flirt with girls in the Philippines, they not only enjoy it, but it actually ADDS FUEL to our chemistry (whereas in the US, flirting with girls "creeped" them out and emanated a vibe of hostility from them). And that's a big thing to me, because I am a big-time flirt!

Filipinas are also a great blend of outer and inner traits. Ethnically, they are Asian, Malay and Spanish, resulting in a very exotic and beautiful mix that is very pleasing and sensual to the eyes. Their exotic sexy sensual olive complexion ranges from light to dark shades, all of which are sexy to me and many other foreigners here. And their attractive highly feminine appearance is combined with a tender romantic loving/caring inner side to them – a fantastic blend to say the least. Not to sound racist, but just as brown sugar is healthier than white sugar, and brown rice is healthier than white rice, (as any nutritionist will tell you) brown skinned women seem to be healthier for your mind, body, and sanity as well. They seem to bring this natural balance to your life and soul. Thus, I’d say that even if you didn’t have a taste for Filipinas or Asian women before, if you come to the Philippines, you soon will.

 

[eurofile007]

Although Filipinas aren't as intellectual, educated, or deep-thinking as the European women are, they make up for it in their other qualities. They have this essence about them, and have this way of treating you that makes you feel needed and loved, like a real man, in a way that you had always wished and dreamed deep down but never dared hoped for. It's beyond words - something you have to feel and experience as a man to understand. And when you do, you realize it's what you had always wanted.and even friends. They are tender, sweet, passionate and fun.

In a way, it's like they give new birth to your heart, for if your heart had lost faith in love, they awaken it and renew it with their child-like hope and belief in love, making it a reality for you, and making you a believer again as well.

The bottom line for me is that here in the Philippines, I feel APPRECIATED, VALUED, DESIRED, WANTED, LIKED, LOVED, NEEDED, etc. (I have cute girls following me around as if they’re hypnotized!) whereas in North America I constantly felt ALIENATED, ALONE, IGNORED, UNDESIRED, UNWANTED, NONEXISTENT, and worst of all POWERLESS to do anything about it. In short, all my WANTS, NEEDS, DESIRES, and FANTASIES are fulfilled here.

Basically, it’s like this: Here, there is ALWAYS ACTION to be had, so I am never bored. I can always go out, have fun, get hot girls, and any type of action I want or need, ANYTIME! Contrast that to back in the states, where I was forced to stay home all the time, as no one wanted to meet me if I went out, so there was no point. There was nothing to do, no action to be had, no one to meet, no fun to be had, etc. It was complete boredom and suffocation, as well as loneliness and isolation. (Yuck!) But now that I can get action anytime I want here, or have fun whenever I want, there’s a reason for me to go out everyday! Wow. I NEVER have to stay home and be bored if I don’t want to here! In fact, there’s always something going on here that is fun and wild that I can PARTICIPATE in interactively (I won’t give you specifics, but leave it up to your imagination), not just sit back and watch passively, more than there is time for! Best of all, there are ALWAYS tons of hot/sexy/cute/gorgeous girls who constantly want to meet me, be with me, have fun with me, get wild with me, and whatever escalates between us, MORE than I can handle! It’s literally a “sex babe Disneyland”!

Anyone who saw my life here and my life in America would think that I was in two different universes. I’m serious. And anybody who witnessed the difference in person would never blame me for saying all these things either. That I can GUARANTEE. I have literally thousands of photos now, from Russia, Europe, and Asia to prove it all – how different my social/love life really is here vs. back in America.

To see visual proof of what I’m talking about, see my new photo collage from the Philippines: www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage2.htm And this photo of me and girls says it all too: www.happierabroad.com/P5060062.jpg (gee do I look happy there or what? Lol)

So, contrary to what New Agers and attitude fanatics (the "you create your own reality" crowd) think, I didn't become a happy optimist by changing my attitude, thoughts or beliefs, but by exercising my power of choice and braving it out against the fear of the unknown, by going to another location on the other side of the globe.

 

[tmpgstx]

Good posts, but you are probably going to get flamed alot.

The North America image of dating you have isn't quite how it is though. Many LSE hotties are dating the White short fat baldie who acts like a girl at the clubs. Every club has them.

In contrast, girls that are taken can't understand why there isn't tons of girls beating my door down. I'm intelligent, a body-builder, have my own business, am charming, funny, and considered very good looking (9 on H or N). I'm not a push-over either.

I'm more of the matured LTR type though (but am making adjustments), and i get approached by alot of younger hotties (early 20s) - i'm early thirties. If i don't go after them sexually right away, they're gone going with someone else in their own circles or someone they consider more *wild*.

So everyone has dating problems, though they may claim otherwise. You just have to come up with your own successful stategy and implement it.

 

[eurofile007]

Good posts, but you are probably going to get flamed alot.

The North America image of dating you have isn't quite how it is though. Many LSE hotties are dating the White short fat baldie who acts like a girl at the clubs. Every club has them.

In contrast, girls that are taken can't understand why there isn't tons of girls beating my door down. I'm intelligent, a body-builder, have my own business, am charming, funny, and considered very good looking (9 on H or N). I'm not a push-over either.

I'm more of the matured LTR type though (but am making adjustments), and i get approached by alot of younger hotties (early 20s) - i'm early thirties. If i don't go after them sexually right away, they're gone going with someone else in their own circles or someone they consider more *wild*.

So everyone has dating problems, though they may claim otherwise. You just have to come up with your own successful stategy and implement it.

W: I might get flamed. But so what, there are many out there who are calling me a "hero" and "inspiration": www.happierabroad.com/Hero_Inspiration.htm

I think though that when you have people who hate you and who call you a hero, you are "significant".

 

[ChapStick]

eurofile007, glad to hear you've found some happiness! Careful with some of those broads though my friend. I've lived in the Philippines for quite some time in the past. STD's are no joke in the PH. Many of my military friends wound up getting some sort of disease from messing with those "easy lays" down in the PH. Just be careful!

Many Americans go out and find themselves Filipina wives, because like you said; they have many positive characteristics! However, you always have to keep an eye out for those Filipinas who are after your wallet! I'm sure you've already heard this though!

Where in the PH are you staying? Manila will be filled with hotties! If you know where to look, you'll find not only hangouts for just the hot Filipina's, but other races as well! You'll find that a lot of mixed half-Filipinas look gorgeous! I myself prefer the "half-breeds" over a pure Filipina! They have have great genes from both sides! There is a trend for the Filam's (Filipino-Americans) to wind up in show-business, because they're just so damn fine!

That lead singer for the ***** Cat Dolls is half-Filipina, half-Hawaiian!

You'll find that if you do return to America, you'll see that the confidence you have in the Philippines will carry-over to wherever you may go!

Enjoy my friend!

- ChapStick

 

[Jestor]

Good to hear that you're finding happiness. It's true that it's not the same everywhere, and it's a myth that's it's the same everywhere. Obvious reasons are some cultures are more traditional than others, more open-minded, less feminist, less self-centered etc. It's osmosis. But it doesn't necessarily mean that you will be successful in one place and unsuccessful in another, but rather more successful here and less successful there.

UPDATE, May 2007: How I went from being a negative pessimist to a positive optimist (and it wasn't by changing myself)

There is good news now. As I'm writing this from the Philippines, I am happy to say that I am now a perpetual happy and positive optimist. How did I do it, you might ask?

Well it's simple, but it wasn't by changing "myself" (for I wasn't the problem). And it wasn't by changing my attitude, thoughts or going through some self-help/pop psychology/New Age program or seminar. In fact, I didn't even have to change myself or who I was. I just remained the same person. Instead, it was simply by changing my geographic LOCATION, environment and culture, entering another world so to speak. Let me explain.

In the US, no one talks to me except old people, I can't get any dates at all, women are completely anti-social to me, strangers act like I don't exist, and I am totally ignored and feel like I don't exist. Unfortunately, women in America generally don’t like to meet new people. They don’t even talk to you unless you are in their clique or they grew up with you, or it’s business-related. And that’s unacceptable to me. But everything I do to try to change all that seems futile, as if trying to change any of it goes completely against the flow and against the grain, inappropriate and out-of-bounds! Ick! It's a no-win situation, or a serious incompatibility at least.

So, with everything that I am suppressed, strangled, and invalidated, how could I possibly be happy or positive, when I can't be who I truly am or act out my nature of being an outgoing fun vibrant social butterfly? It's simply not possible, nor is it natural.

But on the other hand, here in the Philippines, I can be who I truly am, and when I do so, it gets very POSITIVE results! The social environment here completely allows, encourages, and adds fuel to my very social outgoing nature, especially with women! Here, I NEVER have to be alone if I don't want to. I ALWAYS have many hot women to choose from, of all types - dark skin (chocolate), light skin (vanilla), medium olive color, cute, sexy, tall or short, etc. (If you think my ice cream comparisons are bad or cheesy, get this - when a dark skinned and light skinned Filipina are together, they like to refer to themselves as "coffee and cream") Often I have so many contenders that I don't have time for them all and have to cancel a lot of plans!

Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am! I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here! And that's HUGE! It means more than words can say. Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise! Literally. No exaggerating here.

Thus, I am finally allowed to be the social butterfly that I am, as well as positive, confident, optimistic and happy. How can I not be, when all my fantasies and desires and wants/needs are being fulfilled here, naturally and with the flow too!? Simply put, who I am is ACCENTUATED here, rather than invalidated or suppressed.

Some people here even say that I'm the most positive and confident person they've ever met. (If only they knew where I was coming from!) The difference is astounding. It's like a completely different universe where I'm a completely different person. The magnitude of my dating life here is literally "out of this world" (out of the world of America that is).

And it's not because they all want my money (although there are always a portion of bad apples, scammers, and hustlers here that I can run into), as many girls don't care about my money and STILL like/love me even after knowing that I'm a cheapskate and very frugal. Many nice angels here don't even care if I spend money on our dates, as they just like "being with me".

In fact, some of the relationships I have here even eclipse the romances portrayed in Hollywood films, to the point where when I watch them, I say to myself, "I have a lot better than that in real life!" And that's something I could NEVER EVER have said in the USA! In fact, I don’t even watch TV here (like the millions of couch potatoes in America, of which I used to be one of) because I have no need to, as my REAL LIFE is more exciting to me than what’s on the tube!

The most significant difference for me is this: When I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the US, they think I'm a creep, and react with hatred and/or antisociality. But when I am sociable and outgoing to girls in the Philippines (and in most other countries), their response is overwhelmingly positive, and react with enthusiasm and/or attraction. That's a whole world of difference. As an incredible example, when I go to the local mall here in the Philippines, about 90 percent of the girls will give me their number if I ask for it, even if they are really hot and the kind that you would say “ouch!” and consider out of your league! 90 percent! But in the states, that percentage is…….. yep you guessed it, zero! What a universe of difference! In fact, most of the time, they enjoy being "picked up" and "hit on", finding me charming and attractive. And my sweet talk and compliments make them feel good about themselves, so they like being with me.

In my opinion, Filipinas make the best girlfriends, lovers, and friends. Compared to females in the other Asian countries, they aren't as strict, serious, prudish or hung up. Instead, they are relaxed, carefree, happy go lucky, easygoing, playful and sensual. They are also very nonjudgmental and nonracist. And they have a great sense of humor, enjoying the silliest things which easily amuse them. Thus, you can always have fun and joke around or play with them, even if you have nothing else to talk about. That's so nice and refreshing, especially when you are so accustomed to antisociality and hostility from women in the US.

Best of all, they LOVE to flirt. When I flirt with girls in the Philippines, they not only enjoy it, but it actually ADDS FUEL to our chemistry (whereas in the US, flirting with girls "creeped" them out and emanated a vibe of hostility from them). And that's a big thing to me, because I am a big-time flirt!

Filipinas are also a great blend of outer and inner traits. Ethnically, they are Asian, Malay and Spanish, resulting in a very exotic and beautiful mix that is very pleasing and sensual to the eyes. Their exotic sexy sensual olive complexion ranges from light to dark shades, all of which are sexy to me and many other foreigners here. And their attractive highly feminine appearance is combined with a tender romantic loving/caring inner side to them – a fantastic blend to say the least. Not to sound racist, but just as brown sugar is healthier than white sugar, and brown rice is healthier than white rice, (as any nutritionist will tell you) brown skinned women seem to be healthier for your mind, body, and sanity as well. They seem to bring this natural balance to your life and soul. Thus, I’d say that even if you didn’t have a taste for Filipinas or Asian women before, if you come to the Philippines, you soon will.

 

[Obsidian]

interesting experiences

I seriously need to move overseas.

 

[GtarPlayr73]

Wow, this guy's testimonial is compelling and rings true. Lets all just do ourselves a favor and admit that most attractive American women are plain old f*cked up, pure and simple. Not the typical women-are-mysterious-can't-read-em-because-they're-the-opposite-sex f*cked up. I mean well and truly F*CKED UP. Psychologically f*cked up. Sold-their-soul-to-the-devil fu*cked up. What's the difference? It's got to be the materialistic society we live in, where image and pop culture f*cking corrupt and corode the female (and male) mind. Where the goddamned obsession for an ever-larger bank account eclipses what should be higher priorities. God, all this PUA stuff would be worthless in a country like the Philippines. It only "works" and only has relevance here in the states because the goddamn money-grubbing, image-obsessed, spoiled-f*cking -rotten American woman demands it! I tell ya, the hot American woman has been queen over the American man for far too long. Yep, the gorgeous women i observed in Italy were different too. Just more inspiration to look for women (and a fulfilling life) overseas...

 

[Obsidian]

Well, everyone definitely needs to stop supplicating to women...not because it increases your chances for sex, but just because IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO. If everyone would quit worshipping women, society would really turn around for the better.

most attractive American women are plain old f*cked up, pure and simple.

What you really mean is "most attractive American women, and unattractive women as well." About the only ones who aren't spoiled are the ones who grew up so unattractive that society berated and abused them into having no self-esteem (so that they too are f*cked-up psychologically, only in a different way).

 

[STR8UP]

I can vouch for the whole "women overseas are the bomb" thing. Anyone who has visited a country where being an American automatically gives you mega status I'm sure can attest.

Never been to the Philippines, but my last LTR was born there. She moved here when she was 3, so she was well Americanized, but her mom was cool as hell, traditional woman all the way. Actually I have noticed that I get along well with Filipino people in general. I can see how a guy might have a good time living there.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I agree with the concept that there is 'another world' out there. I feel like there is another type of 'world' out there, especially if you go to Latin American or SE Asian countries, it would seem like some sort of paradise there -- you'd feel you would just want to buy a one-way ticket and all problems or issues with women would be instantly solved.

I often feel like that at times - if I were able to go to SE Asia or Latin America I'd have a 'real' vacation - a vacation from myself - I wouldn't be myself, and that's a vacation worth having.

In all honestly, I'm quite isolated, I live with my parents and dont go out much, I'm terrified of approaching strangers, so I'm not the 'typical guy' on here - I have very little field experience but, I generally think that many women out there have an 'attitude' or have pedistle issues - and unless you have great game or something, it all somehow feels out of reach to be the type of guy to have it easy with girls, yet I feel like you posted, if you are in a Latin American or SE Asian country, it would be like a different dimension to here.

When people come to North America it becomes chasing the dollar, paying bills, and people just loose that touch that you get in these other countries.

 

[~attrACTION~]

Damn, nice post! I'm glad that you've become so happy in PH, and have been so successful with being your true self! That's really great, thanks for sharing. I'm travelling overseas in a short while too. Not to PH but I definitely would love to visit there someday as well.

 

[englishman]

Yep, good luck, I had similar experience in Thailand, I can pull the babes here in Canada, but I loved over there was just a totally different thing, the attitude and BS I have to go through here in Vancouver is bollocks.
Watch out for em though, I ended up in a fight with one thai chicks husband who used me to get her husband jealous and ended up fighting at a bus station then police came etc....anyway, keep yourself grounded!
Best of luck.

 

[Hitman10000]

I wanna see a picture of this euro guy saying Filipinas or Asian women are awesome. He's probably the typical loser fat bald white guy because he can't land hot white women he goes for asian women. No doubt about this, in Asia the white man is seen as a green card king, you really think that chick likes you for who you are?

I've seen enough white guys with asian chicks, the asian girls don't like that great and the white guys...well let's just say that there are good reasons why they can't pick up white chicks.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Totally true! Great post! I love to travel and by far American girls are the worst... lol not being anti-american but the culture just doesn`t promote unity and caring for stangers. Everyone in the US is so isolated.

I never realized how much feminism has screwed up the US! I lived in Asia for 12 years moved to US and just came back from college and damn I reexperianced the huge differance again. Men here don`t take any BS from women, they expect women to clean and cook...everyday... women do it and they love being housewives. I`m really surprised that more US men don`t move out since they make enough money to live happily in Europe or Asia.

 

[HaremMasterThomas]

Unfortunately you are not AlphaMale, if you were you would have enjoyed a very happy existence fvcking many hot babes whilst you were living in the USA.
You are only a success in the Philippines because of your USA status, but if it makes you happy then it is all fine.
I had a friend here in Australia who was a total loser when it came to alluring the hot white high society babes in this country, yet in the Philippines the fact that he is white and highly academically accredited even though a dawk, he has managed to find happiness and marriage with a woman over there.
Is this a good thing though or does it proclaim to yourself and everyone else that you are really a loser who can't allure a high status woman in your own country.

 

[~attrACTION~]

I wanna see a picture of this euro guy saying Filipinas or Asian women are awesome. He's probably the typical loser fat bald white guy because he can't land hot white women he goes for asian women. No doubt about this, in Asia the white man is seen as a green card king, you really think that chick likes you for who you are?

I've seen enough white guys with asian chicks, the asian girls don't like that great and the white guys...well let's just say that there are good reasons why they can't pick up white chicks.

Did you even read his post? He posted links with pictures, at least 20 different pictures: www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage2.htm

I don't think all the girls in that collage are hot, but 3-4 of them look great.

Unfortunately you are not AlphaMale, if you were you would have enjoyed a very happy existence fvcking many hot babes whilst you were living in the USA.
You are only a success in the Philippines because of your USA status, but if it makes you happy then it is all fine.
I had a friend here in Australia who was a total loser when it came to alluring the hot white high society babes in this country, yet in the Philippines the fact that he is white and highly academically accredited even though a dawk, he has managed to find happiness and marriage with a woman over there.
Is this a good thing though or does it proclaim to yourself and everyone else that you are really a loser who can't allure a high status woman in your own country.

I don't think you get it - he doesn't care what you think. He's fulfilling all his sexual desires everyday. He couldn't care less how he compares to the typical American male or not. The point is to be happy, not boost egos or compare how "alpha male" you are.

 

[~attrACTION~]

Actually, I take that back, at least 10 of them are really hot! And there's several pages of photos!

Okay, damn, he's even done plenty of Russian broads: http://www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage.htm (hope you don't mind me posting your other links...the Russian women are hot)

By the way, lastly, I have to say, your site is really awesome. Great work in posting all of that and the journals, etc. It really inspires me to want to travel abroad more. These pictures are 10x better than what most PUAs use to validate themselves as "gurus" on their websites. I bet if you posted these on mASF or other PUA boards the guys would all be flooding your site asking you what techniques and strategies you're using. You could make up stories and write books about how you're some great pick-up artist, seriously, these pictures are gold.

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

Best of all, these sweet cuties and angels in turn see me as attractive, handsome, cute, interesting, charming, significant to them, etc. etc. and that completely VALIDATES who I am! I completely exist and matter to the women that I'm ATTRACTED to here! And that's HUGE! It means more than words can say. Everyday here, I feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise! Literally. No exaggerating here.

I would have thought someone else would have caught this. Here's why you couldn't succeed in the U.S. Your happiness was linked to your success with women, that's not good mate. If you struck out, you were miserable. Then I'm guessing after awhile, you started giving of a scent of neediness, which smells worse than b.o. with skunk sprayed on and topped with a layer of rancid cottage cheese.

So instead of deciding to expand your horizons (hobbies learning exercise etc.) and to be happy no matter how successful you were with women, you took the easy way out and went to a foreign country and cashed in on your American passport status. So instead of being miserable, you're fooling yourself into thinking you're happy. I'm sure 75% of guys would take that tradeoff. Not me, I prefer inner validation. The only person whose opinion truly matters to me, is the person in the mirror. Take away the attention those women give you. Do you still feel like Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise?

 

[~attrACTION~]

^ I actually caught that too, but hey, that's his problem.