"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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From first convo to number close?

Eph

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Finally talked to this girl I've seen around school for the past YEAR. I had too many "perfect" (times when she was completely alone) chances to talk to her last year, but was too nervous to take any. Then during the summer I saw her once, but STILL didn't take it (it was a brief "turn around a corner not knowing what to expect moment" but still). After that I took I was screwed, but once school started up again I saw her a couple times (none of which were "perfect" chances), maybe once or twice alone, but STILL didn't take any chances.

Today, I finally said to myself," f it. If she's alone and I don't at least talk to her I'm going to shoot myself in the foot." (It was more of a having a conversation with myself; instead of thinking 'I', I thought 'you'). I've been overthinking this for the past year; I eventually came up with a 'script' to use which I did today to minimal failure.

*Early College being a high school "program" where you earn college credits during some classes along with your high school credits. The program is NOT a school in itself, but was given a former elementary school for use until last year.

**She is a cheerleader, HB7/8 (but then again I don't really rank ANYONE a 9 or 10), pretty big backside, smallish boobs, skinny, tall, somewhat dark (as in Black)

Convo:
Me: Hey (*as she's walking away*)
Her: (*Soon hears me and walks over*) Yeah?
Me: Didn't you go to Early College last year?
Her: Yeah.
Me: (*After a very slight "silence"*) Oh yeah, you'd always be singing in the lunch room. That was funny.
Her: (*Slight laugh*) Yeah. You went there?
Me: Yeah. Your a Junior?
Her: Oh no, Senior.
Me: (*I'm a Sophomore by the way*) Oh.

As I said above, I had (by this point) memorized my half of this eventual conversation. What I had wanted to say was: "Hey, didn't you go to Early College? Yeah, I remember. You'd always be singing in the lunchroom. Your a Junior?" Not entirely different from what I ended up saying but nevertheless I find it funny how me and my sister had a conversation about memorizing stuff to say. She basically said you don't really think about what you're going to say in a conversation beforehand. You just kind of let it happen naturally. Her word of advice was,"When you try to remember things to say is when you mess up".

Which I just realized today how right she was. The funny thing is I didn't feel so nervous while talking to her. My heart wasn't racing, I wasn't sweating, etc. ANYWAY, after this long post my question is how do I get a number close the next time I talk to her? I was sorta thinking about talking to her again about how I didn't even get her name today (even though I already know it from hearing it). But there's no real conversation after that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You will get better advice from the HS forum. Many of us are too old to remember how jailbaits work.
 

QuodErat

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ANYWAY, after this long post my question is how do I get a number close the next time I talk to her?
I used this once:

"Hey, you got a cell phone?"
"Yeah"
"Okay, I gotta get back to my friends, but tell me what your number is real quick."
"It's XXXXXXXXXXXX"

I was hanging out in the lunchroom with my friends, then I suddenly went "I never approach w/ my friends looking because I will fvck up and they will all laugh at me :( but FVCK THAT ITS GONNA WORK"

And then it did! Twice.
 
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