"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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From beyond the end, to your resurrection (Part 1)

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Value is the basis of everything you will read on this board. Value sums up everything I can teach you; value is the alpha and omega of your social life. To create value, you must understand value.

Step 1: Why are women attracted to men?

It is not about how you look, how you act, how much money you make. That is what you see on the surface, and what a girl believes. What attracts you to a women is your value, your significance; your rarity.

Step 2: Rarity? I think I’ve heard that somewhere.

Rarity is value. DJs are rare, we are valuable. If every man was a DJ, what value could we have?

Step 3: Why should I believe that women are attracted to value, and not my personality?

Look at the things it appears women are attracted to. The clothes you wear, your social status, the way your body looks. They are all, in reality, merely value.

Why are diamonds valuable? They are rare. Rarity is value, that which we can not hold onto and feel reliant and secure about, due to its uniqueness, is a valuable which is held highly in our society.

Step 4: Ok, how do I create value?

Become the diamond. Diamonds are worn as a symbol of status, you must reach high status. You must be different; you must be a Don Juan. You must realize that your value outweighs everyone to the extent that you cannot be scratched, just like a diamond.

Step 5: Can you put that in a way that doesn’t sound like you’re a pothead?

Women desire a man with value, society places value on you, so it’s pretty easy at this point. Gaining value in high school is damn easy, in fact. Being popular makes you valuable. Being good looking makes you valuable. Catching on yet?

Step 6: I’ve done all you said, but I still have problems…

You’re not holding your value. What good is a rock that looks like a diamond, feels like a diamond, but still cracks? You must create value, and then maintain it. Raise it to infinity; let your value be your wings.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Smooth as Anything

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bump :(
 

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little foggy on how to explain value but i cant blame you its hard to really put words on

having value is really just being an interesting person.

i really view it as that alpha male that everyone wants to be with and see what he is gonna do or say next

having value is being a man, and a good person.

being attractive has no depth or long term appeal
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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clap clap clap...
 

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Nice, nice. Bump.
 

Mr. Debonaire

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good post, so many of the new guys dont understand how unique we really are!

Guys, WE ARE THE PRIZE!!!
 
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