Frigid

[Rainman4707]

Been seeing HB7 for a few weeks. First date I took her for a drink got a kiss at end of date. Second date we went for a meal then walked around mall. I got her back to my place & in my bed fully clothed though. I began to work my magic, but she said that she had a 3 month rule (3 months of dating or 10 dates then she would have sex) I told her I didn't think I could wait that long. I dropped my level of mood & drove her home. She invited me in & I got her naked & had oral sex with her.

Next date I took her to pictures. Date after that I went to hers...she put up a lot of resistance, but I had sex with her (it wasn't very good sex) when I got home she texted me this :-

" Hey I think it's best if we just go our separate ways & end things the way they are now. I had a good ending to my day thanks to you & I've enjoyed hanging out with you. Take Care "

I did'nt reply. The next night I received.another text from her :-

"The reasoni sent you that text this morning is because I felt embarrassed about what had happened between us. I'm not one for sleeping with someone I don't know well. When you came back from the car (I went out to get more condoms =0) you felt cold towards me & I was embarrassed that I had given you the impression that I was the type of girl who sleeps with guys she barely knows. That's not the type of girl I am, hence the ambarrasment. I would like to see you if you are interested, but would like to take it slower & get to know each other. That way when we do have sex again, I will be more comfortable with you & you with me"

I went to hers not long after that text managed to get her clothes off although she always trys to resist. Poked her. Tried & kept trying for sex, but she was having none of it even though she was horny (one week before her period) she said she was sore from the sex we had the night before. Strange thing is I got the feeling she would of allowed me to f*ck her without the condom.

I text her today to arrange for me to come over hers. She knows I want to see her in her flat, but she is wanting to do something in the city. I told her i'll just see her another night.

I know don juans say that donjuans shouldn't post threads like this, but we are here to discuss women so..why not.
I don't see it as a problem, just felt like sharing it.
I wanted to go to hers tomorrow night because It is a few days before her period ( she told me when I was trying to have sex with her, that her body really wants me) & she will be horny (I saw it as a good chance to fu*k her) but she is not gonna let it happen ha
Don juans say that if if its right, it shouldn't be complicated so am gonna keep spinning plates for ten days or so (She can Fuc* off)

 

[Thorninmyside]

It doesn't sound too complicated to me because despite the resistance she has done stuff with you, and said "WHEN we have sex again..." In the slow down conversation.

I'd see other girls to keep your willy wet, make this girl a part timer and bang her silly when she wants it bad enough (and I think she will). Slow might sound like a great idea in her head until you actually do it, and then she'll be jonesing for a good screw. I think a week or two of going slow and she'll be raping you for it.

 

[Ruleit]

I don't see a problem with this chick. She's putting out. She wants you. This is just her Anti-Slut-Defense kicking in. Give her reassurances that you don't see her as a slut, build up the comfort level a bit and you'll soon be banging her on a regular schedule.

You could also try a "freeze out" on her. i.e sacrifice one date with her where you two go somewhere (inexpensive or free). Don't make ANY moves on her during this date. That means:

- No kino
- No kissing
- No close contact
- No sexual hinting in the convo

Just chill and see if you dig being around her. PvssyTEASE her. Make HER wonder what's up. Let her wonder if you're losing interest in her. If she asks what's up... tell her "nothing, it's all good." Let her feel like you're the one who's measuring her up to see if she fits you.

At the same make sure you're having a blast.

 

[Tictac]

Keep acting like you are deaf.

She'll be gone in no time.

 

[gravityeyelids]

Get something through your skull. There is a difference between the f-buddy girl and the dating girl. This girl will give you far too much of a hard time to be a f-buddy. Right now you are treating her like a f-buddy. Sometimes being on this site gets you into the mindset that you NEED to push for sex AT ALL TIMES. This is not correct.

You've already banged her. And yes, while it's fun to continue doing so... if you want to continue to date this girl you are going to need to stop doing things that f-buddies do (revolving the meetup around banging at each others' houses) and start doing things that people dating do. Take her out and *gasp* get to know her and form a connection with her. She basically told you straight up that she was sick of being used just for sex and she wants to do other activities and actually get to know you because you come off as an interesting person (a huge IOI). And what did you do? You basically said "nahhhh..i dont wanna see you if i cant stick my **** into you".

You need to decide whether you like her enough to consider dating her. I'm not saying you have to jump into or even consider a LTR right now. You can usually screen and casually date a girl for like 3-6 months before you are kind of forced into a LTR. If, during that time, you decide you dont want to progress the relationship further, then fine. Dont. But you're going in the wrong direction now and she's going to bail on you if you keep treating her like a slvt.

 

[apprenticedj]

I'm with gravity on this one. Sometimes, in order to consistantly get at the pu**y, you gotta romance these gals a little. Nothing over the top but give her the reassurance that you're not a straight up dog BUT.......

only if you actually want to see her more frequently.

Cheers for not responding to that BS send off text she sent you. IMO she was hoping to grab the frame by making you kiss her feet and reassure her that she's still a delicate flower in your eyes.

B*tches, I swear!