"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friendzoned when a girls suddenly cries her heart out with you?

LittleBigOne

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And here we go again,

The girl i am attracted too is walking into the room where i work. So i think, let´s have some fun again and arrange a day and time to cook together. That was already a plan of us together since a while.
But i look at her and she looks not too happy....she starts to cry...about her semi crimenal brother and the problems he causes with her family. Well, i shut the door of the room and let her heart cry out and listened for a littewhile. Told her i am not a therapist and that there is only a little i can do. Cheared her up a bit and arranged a day next week to cook at my place.

Why is she starting to cry her heart out with me??? I dont know her that well, we see eachother a few times a week at work and tease eachother and have fun. Good that she trusts me/feel comfortable with me but when i drove home i was thinking...another girl who sees me as friend/friendly colleague damn. But this time i didn´t had the feeling i did something wrong (killing attraction) BEFORE this happened. Well, next week she comes over, i am gonna bust her balls and want to make clear to her in a positive way that we are gonna have fun and not talk about her problems. I feel anger when i write this, maybe it´s a good drive to make things happen.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Could be weird exception but very likely friendzone.
 

ezio

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A girl crying her heart out to you is not an automatic friendzone. it shouldn't always be about how to get into a girls pants. sometimes life throws so much **** at you. could be she's burdened and needs someone to talk to. it might be a one off thing, stick with it for some time and see where it goes but just don't let her make it a habit
 

Spawn_Xe

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i have to agree with ezio, if it's a one off then it can be considered exceptional circumstances. Atleast you know she feels she can trust you with her feelings.. just dont let her become dependant on you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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