"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friendzone

tennisbuck12

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Board,

I've been recently been put in the friendzone. It was hard to make a move on this girl very protective/not very flirty. Problem is I still like her (for whatever) reason and want to get strategy to get her back. I haven't contacted her in a week and have been seeing other women. I'm not going to let this dictate my life, but want to do everything I can.

Is the best course of path just to sit tight and let her contact me.

Alex
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tennisbuck12

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Yep. Walk away for good and learn my lesson. That no chick is worth what I did (expensive xmas gift, pick up for work, suprise her with dinner, etc).

Should of just taken her out drinking
 

AllDay85

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Yep. Walk away for good and learn my lesson. That no chick is worth what I did (expensive xmas gift, pick up for work, suprise her with dinner, etc).

Should of just taken her out drinking
Expensive gift and all that elaborate beta-guy stuff is the reason you got friend-zoned in the first place, remember that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tennisbuck12

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Yep. Walk away for good and learn my lesson. That no chick is worth what I did (expensive xmas gift, pick up for work, suprise
 

Stugots26

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I like your attitude. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you learn from them, you WILL become a very high quality man. If you want, though, it wouldn't be the end of the world to text her something like:
"Hey name, meet me at x place at x time." If she flakes with no counter offer, then she's gone for good. If she does show, escalate and get sexual. If she blocks your advances, then she's gone from your life. Easy as that.
Respectfully disagree. Your time and attention is your currency. Only do this if she gets in touch with you. When she does, your suggestion of a meet up can either be accepted, or it's a call to her bluff.
 

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friendzone = byebyezone
 
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