Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Friendzone is more about rank than attraction

backbreaker

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nismo-4 said:
Who the hell is this kid?
president obama.

his dad knocked his mom up and went to the east coast and divorced his mother.

I mean it's a slightly different situation, obama's father is not call at what i would call a deadbeat, in fact obama is actually a Harvard legacy as his father graduated from there but divorced barrack's mom when he moved and barrack was stuck with his mom in Hawaii.

I mean my son is mixed so it's something i notice. for the most part it really isn't that big of a deal. but every once in a while you can see a man look at my wife, and then look at him, and then look at my wife and look at him and you can see the wheels spinning in their head. i mean he's a fvckign spitting image of her just darker so there is no mistaken it's her son.

I refuse to deal with ignorant people which is why you really never see me get worked up about race and stuff like that, people like that i just pay no mind to, people who let their prejudices and superstitions limit the things they do and the world they live in. My wife does as well and she is worse than i am. she will cut off anyone who even hints at anything racist or ignorant or anything like that. but she can afford to. but i mean, if you are a woman and you are 38 years old and you are single and it's the proverbial last call for alcohol in your dating life, as the saying goes beggers can't be choosers.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IMO, friendzoning is subjective. To some women, it's solely about looks. to others, it is as PUA people say, in that the man is too beta and befriending.

as for absolutes, well IMO nothing is truly absolute. The friendzone can be escaped from, but even then this depends on the woman involved. Some friendzone perpetually, whilst others can readily re-evalutate.
 

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ilikecharlene said:
IMO, friendzoning is subjective. To some women, it's solely about looks. to others, it is as PUA people say, in that the man is too beta and befriending.

as for absolutes, well IMO nothing is truly absolute. The friendzone can be escaped from, but even then this depends on the woman involved. Some friendzone perpetually, whilst others can readily re-evalutate.
Yeh i like this man. Its kinda what im starting to see. Not all friendzones are created equal.
 
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