Friendships: A Serious Conversation With My Best Friend Last Night

[we all eat food]

So im staying local for college (community college) and my friend is going away to a 4 year school, last night we were driving around talking about stuff, and he told me that for must of high school i was always under the radar, i was just we all eat food that kid that is quiet and does plays. Now when im around people who i am not intimated by i can be the life of the party, but the kids who i want to fit in with the higher value social status so called "popular" kids, i want to be in with them, but to be in with them i have to display an interest, such as say that i like basketball, and all those kids have a passion for it, then ill be friends with them. Ive realized something, the only reason i have friends now is by that we both wanted someone to hang out with, and then we got to really know each other. And from all this discussion we had, i realized, I really dont know what im realy interested in, and i dont know myself at all. I want to meet people just like me, but i havent yet.

Any help?

 

[benjiprice]

Are you actually interested in basketball? If you're not, you can't fake that and you shouldn't even try to.

It's not about what you're interested. Seriously I think about my friends and ex gfs, and I really don't share that many interests with them. What we share is a "frequency", a level on which we connect. When I'm with them, my interest is *them* and the feelings I get from being with them, not what they do or what they like. Your friends need to be interested in *you*. That *you* can change over time and new ppl can become interested in you, but it always has to be genuine. Sure you can meet a lot of new ppl by faking it, but they'll never be real friends.

The highschool concept of "popularity" dies on graduation day.

Keep working on yourself and have fun.