"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Friendships: A Serious Conversation With My Best Friend Last Night

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we all eat food

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So im staying local for college (community college) and my friend is going away to a 4 year school, last night we were driving around talking about stuff, and he told me that for must of high school i was always under the radar, i was just we all eat food that kid that is quiet and does plays. Now when im around people who i am not intimated by i can be the life of the party, but the kids who i want to fit in with the higher value social status so called "popular" kids, i want to be in with them, but to be in with them i have to display an interest, such as say that i like basketball, and all those kids have a passion for it, then ill be friends with them. Ive realized something, the only reason i have friends now is by that we both wanted someone to hang out with, and then we got to really know each other. And from all this discussion we had, i realized, I really dont know what im realy interested in, and i dont know myself at all. I want to meet people just like me, but i havent yet.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you actually interested in basketball? If you're not, you can't fake that and you shouldn't even try to.

It's not about what you're interested. Seriously I think about my friends and ex gfs, and I really don't share that many interests with them. What we share is a "frequency", a level on which we connect. When I'm with them, my interest is *them* and the feelings I get from being with them, not what they do or what they like. Your friends need to be interested in *you*. That *you* can change over time and new ppl can become interested in you, but it always has to be genuine. Sure you can meet a lot of new ppl by faking it, but they'll never be real friends.

The highschool concept of "popularity" dies on graduation day.

Keep working on yourself and have fun.
 
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