legolas
Master Don Juan
Do you guys find that most of your friends don't really contact you unless they have some kind of a problem which only you can solve?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Friends
- Thread starter legolas
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
the only guys i define as "real friends" are the people i go out with on saturday night: 3 of my ex-classmates, my brother and my girlfriend. every saturday, there can be another 5-6 people that want to join us, but the only people i can refer to as close friends are the ones that i go out with on a regular basis... so i don't and i CAN'T have your problem
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. I have 3 real friends that are scattered around the globe, but everytime we have the oppertunity we meet and have a blast.
Acquaintances are those dipsh*ts that I usually go out with. And, to be honest, I give a **** about them.
Acquaintances are those dipsh*ts that I usually go out with. And, to be honest, I give a **** about them.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Are you sure these people are really your "friends"? If they only contact you because they need something from you, then they're just using you. If the were real friends, they would call you up to chill and whatnot. I suggest you find a new group of friends.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Very true. I heard a saying once that "A true friend will come and pick you up at 4am. An acquaintance won't". If the only time you talk to these people is when they have a problem, odds are good that they aren't as good friend as you think.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.