legolas
Master Don Juan
Do you guys find that most of your friends don't really contact you unless they have some kind of a problem which only you can solve?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Friends
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the only guys i define as "real friends" are the people i go out with on saturday night: 3 of my ex-classmates, my brother and my girlfriend. every saturday, there can be another 5-6 people that want to join us, but the only people i can refer to as close friends are the ones that i go out with on a regular basis... so i don't and i CAN'T have your problem
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. I have 3 real friends that are scattered around the globe, but everytime we have the oppertunity we meet and have a blast.
Acquaintances are those dipsh*ts that I usually go out with. And, to be honest, I give a **** about them.
Acquaintances are those dipsh*ts that I usually go out with. And, to be honest, I give a **** about them.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Are you sure these people are really your "friends"? If they only contact you because they need something from you, then they're just using you. If the were real friends, they would call you up to chill and whatnot. I suggest you find a new group of friends.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Very true. I heard a saying once that "A true friend will come and pick you up at 4am. An acquaintance won't". If the only time you talk to these people is when they have a problem, odds are good that they aren't as good friend as you think.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.